"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Which city is the poorest:)

e-lie

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What city is d poorest city in 2006 I heard that miami is the poorest city (which comes to know surprise I live there:).What city now claims the tittle.?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The poorest places are in the deep south I believe. Detriot and Flint I always hear bad about too.
 

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It would help if you first defined your terms better. What exactly do you mean by "city" and "poorest?" Is a geographic area or small town a "city" or do you mean only major urban areas? How do you define "poor?" Is is by median incomes, or by a different measure, like the Fed's "poverty line?" There are other factors, too, like unemployment, crime, and welfare recipient stats that closely correlate with poverty.
 

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For the big cities it's by far Detroit.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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not sure why a "what's the poorest city" question prompts people to start reeling off American cities. There's other countries in the world yer know, and there's no way an American city holds that title

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_world's_poorest_city

apparently :)
 

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shaunuk said:
not sure why a "what's the poorest city" question prompts people to start reeling off American cities. There's other countries in the world yer know, and there's no way an American city holds that title

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_world's_poorest_city

apparently :)
I'm surprised it was Potosi, Bolivia. I thought it would be some place in Haiti.
 

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shaunuk said:
not sure why a "what's the poorest city" question prompts people to start reeling off American cities. There's other countries in the world yer know, and there's no way an American city holds that title

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_world's_poorest_city

apparently :)
People like me just assumed that because the original post mentioned Miami was the poorest city in 2006, and I doubt Miami was any poorer than any of the other cities outside of America.
 

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yeah fair enough, thought you meant the whole world cause there's a lot of nationalities on here :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't know where you found Miami at #1 but it's been Detroit or Cleveland the past 3-4 years. Miami was #5 in 2006, but is also the 3rd most expensive to live in so it depends on what statistics people use. But the US Census defines 'poorest' as the highest percentage of people living below the poverty line. And Detroit wins that by a landslide at 33.8%. Cleveland is 2nd at 29.5%.

But for what it's worth, Miami is #1 in road rage, #1 worst to be a sports fan, and #1 worst real estate market.

Detroit is #1 in violent crime, #2 in unemployment, #1 worst for raising kids, #1 angriest, #1 worst to own a dog, #1 worst for sleep, #1 worst high school graduation rate, #1 most expensive to own a car, and #1 in STD rates.

I'm sure there's a lot of other bad stuff in Miami but it was a lot harder to find than Detroit haha.
 
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