Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Honestly, learn by experience first and foremost. A good ratio is 3:1. For every hour you spend reading or surfing pickup forums, you should have 3 hours face-to-face with various women. The only time you should be looking at material is when you're troubleshooting issues you ran into when you were actually interacting with real live women.Miladius said:Hi I want to become good at pick up which book is good to read?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well, read it still. Why sell yourself short? Learn the inner game from one author, the outer game from another. Most times when one's inner game is straight they become a natural who doesn't need outer game tricks to get girls. The bottom line in Pook's book is when you become a successful man in almost every sense (which starts with the inner you) women will be of the same values will be trying to align themselves with you. Some of you guys don't get it.Miladius said:What do you think about Swinggcat and Real World seduction? I don't think its manipulative as some say it is.
Just playful.
I don't like Mysterys method. I have thought about Jugglers method but don't think it works on night clubs because of the method.
I also have thought about reading Pooks book but it doesn't help my OUTER game. Sure I get some of the inner mindsets down but it does not help me. I wish Pook had written an outer game book. Maybe he was a theorist though? I dunno
Nutz said:Honestly, learn by experience first and foremost. A good ratio is 3:1. For every hour you spend reading or surfing pickup forums, you should have 3 hours face-to-face with various women. The only time you should be looking at material is when you're troubleshooting issues you ran into when you were actually interacting with real live women.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.