You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Honestly, learn by experience first and foremost. A good ratio is 3:1. For every hour you spend reading or surfing pickup forums, you should have 3 hours face-to-face with various women. The only time you should be looking at material is when you're troubleshooting issues you ran into when you were actually interacting with real live women.Miladius said:Hi I want to become good at pick up which book is good to read?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well, read it still. Why sell yourself short? Learn the inner game from one author, the outer game from another. Most times when one's inner game is straight they become a natural who doesn't need outer game tricks to get girls. The bottom line in Pook's book is when you become a successful man in almost every sense (which starts with the inner you) women will be of the same values will be trying to align themselves with you. Some of you guys don't get it.Miladius said:What do you think about Swinggcat and Real World seduction? I don't think its manipulative as some say it is.
Just playful.
I don't like Mysterys method. I have thought about Jugglers method but don't think it works on night clubs because of the method.
I also have thought about reading Pooks book but it doesn't help my OUTER game. Sure I get some of the inner mindsets down but it does not help me. I wish Pook had written an outer game book. Maybe he was a theorist though? I dunno
Nutz said:Honestly, learn by experience first and foremost. A good ratio is 3:1. For every hour you spend reading or surfing pickup forums, you should have 3 hours face-to-face with various women. The only time you should be looking at material is when you're troubleshooting issues you ran into when you were actually interacting with real live women.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.