"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Where To Meat Poeple (not only women )

evan12

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I want a place that I can go and find poeple to socialize with them , why it is so hard in north America to find such places , in other countries there are cafes which strangers talk with each others even if they didnt meet before .
here I is very hard start conversation with strangers unless you have very interesting subjects .
any suggested places ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Probably should learn to spell first.

Bazingggg. jk bro.

Any city, any place anywhere. Just gotta approach.
 

Mike32ct

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I can understand the OP's frustration. There really aren't any places where people just want to talk and meet each other, as opposed to staying in their cliques/groups.

If such a place existed and had women, it would turn to a sausage fest overnight anyway.

I've only temporarily experienced a friendly chatty environment while on vacation. In real life, back home, it doesn't really happen.

Generally it works like this...

1. Are you in her clique or at least a friend of a clique member? If yes, she will talk to you.

2. If you are not connected, but she finds you hot (or rich or high status, blah blah blah broken record) she will talk to you.

Nobody else need apply.

I'm all for cold approaching but a thick skin is a must.
 

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Where To Meat Poeple
The meat market. Just kidding. I couldn’t resist.

If your interest is meeting people in general, some of the most fascinating conversations I’ve had were with fellow patrons while sitting up at the bar in restaurants. Of course, you can’t just sit there quietly and expect people to chat you up, because that will only occasionally happen. You need to be proactive.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you want to MEAT men and women? (not that there's anything wrong with that?
 

Who Dares Win

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At the gym, you can get to know some meathead and go all togheter at the restaurant for some steak, also those guido type guys are the best wingmen in case you go to the club hunting for fresh chicks or cougars, just make sure to dont burn any grill (I mean girl) while looking for fresh meat.
 

evan12

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sorry for my incorrect spelling obviously I meant "meet"

If your interest is meeting people in general, some of the most fascinating conversations I’ve had were with fellow patrons while sitting up at the bar in restaurants.
yes in fact , I want my social skills to go up , I need to talk with deffirent poeple not only women , but the thing is no place when you can talk with , I tried a couple of times in book store , but the usually they just try to end the conversation as soon as (men and women )
I tried bar , but poeple come with their friends and they dont welcome strangers

I am 29 bty
 

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If you're having trouble with social skills I think bars are not the place to go. People are there to have fun, not be a practice dummy for someone to figure out how to talk with.

I'd say start with the people at work or school first. Start with new friends of friends. Conversations are more organic with these people since you have more to talk about and reasons to talk to people. Simply starting a conversation with a stranger for no reason is hit-or-miss. Alot of people don't want to be bothered and they don't begin organically.

Once you have better skills you can deduce when you should and when you shouldn't talk to strangers.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TonyBaloney

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All you guys are real mickey takers ;)

Seriously OP, look at meetup.com, its got lots of cool social events. All individuals meeting up (male and female) looking to make connections with like minded folk; the perfect way to make friends in a non hassle evironment. Try a few of these and youll hit the right note.

All the best,

Tony
 
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