"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Where else can I escalate besides my bed?

Vice

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I've grown accustomed to having a first kiss on my bed... it's happened like twice now. I know it's not that much, but it's really the only place where I feel comfortable and confident enough.

Now, obviously that's a problem because when I'm out and there's a good opportunity, I won't have my bed.

Can some of you guys share your experiences with your first kisses happening in other places? I'll often find myself in an isolated spot (usually sitting down on a bench near water) with a girl but never go for it even though there wouldn't be a problem. I've just never really done it in that position and I just don't know what to expect.

And my apologies if I'm not making much sense... I've had a stressful day (eBay buyer complaints... yech)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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fourblueballs

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You don't really NEED isolation. I've done it in public.. in department stores. Just go into an isle where there is no one else. Around a corner.

If you are by your car.. lean back on your car... or standing next to hers...

Go for it
 

loving

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Follow your bliss
MoveYourAss... said:
Just do it.
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MoveYourA$$... and your brain will follow
You cant get better advice than this

Kissing is a great way to calibrate haha!
 

sodbuster

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I've had SEX on the kitchen counter,dining room table,dentalchair etc. Had a BJ driving 70 down the highway. I know guys who had it on the sidewalk outside a ski lodge or on a picknic table out in the back yard. And you are worried about kissing her? Nobody cares if you get caught kissing. If she's ok with a kiss in the bedroom,she'll probably be OK with a kiss anywhere that doesn't involve her parents. JUST DO IT!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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fourblueballs

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sodbuster said:
I've had SEX on the kitchen counter,dining room table,dentalchair etc. Had a BJ driving 70 down the highway. I know guys who had it on the sidewalk outside a ski lodge or on a picknic table out in the back yard. And you are worried about kissing her? Nobody cares if you get caught kissing. If she's ok with a kiss in the bedroom,she'll probably be OK with a kiss anywhere that doesn't involve her parents. JUST DO IT!

I can top that... on a basketball court.. right in the middle of the court!

We should start a thread somewhere.. with the craziest places people have done it.

I'd have to rethink.. back a bit.. I do believe.. the basketball court.. tops the list.. or spooning in my pick up bed at the drive ins w/ ppl walking by.

Or on a play ground in day light! lol I'm going to hell. lol

okay.. I'll start the thread! Everyone hop over.. and reply
 

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vice said:
Where else can I escalate besides my bed?
The elevator?

But seriously, you seem a bit experienced so isolation would be the way to go (less external factors.) Once you get comfortable enough, you'll be breaking local public decency laws in no time.

I once had sex in the back seat of a car while my older brother was driving us to a party.
 
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