"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Where do you go to pick up hotties?
- Thread starter knight56
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thundercat
Don Juan
Typically, you wanna avoid places where you're not really allowed to talk (like libraries).
Bars and clubs are great places, as long as you don't mind loud noises and competition.
Typically, the best places to meet women are at parties.
Other than that, pretty much anywhere women can spend money: Malls, stores, restaurants (preferably with bars), coffee shops, etc.
If you really like books, instead of the library, try hanging out at book stores like Barns&Noble. Tons of women hang out there, and the coffee shops help with the pick-up.
If you're into gaming, maybe try online venues. Myspace and Friendster are big with women, and they're free, unlike dating sites.
Oh, and Fantasy conventions (ie: Anything to do with dragons) do attract a great deal of women, if that's your thing.
Thundercat
diablo
Master Don Juan
Well, I wouldn't really worry about where the "cool guys and gals go to hang out". Especially since you're 25; if the cool thing for grown-ups to do is hang out at a game room designed for kids about half of your age, then I'd say you might want to re-locate to a better city. Also, since in your other threads you've mentioned that you are attracted to overweight women, I would recommend that you stick around any good restaurant offering a buffet... that or you could start counselling at a Weight Watcher's program...Originally posted by knight56
Ummm......but what do you think of the game room?
You know the game room where cool guys and gals go to hang out!