"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Where do you go to pick up hotties?
- Thread starter knight56
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Thundercat
Don Juan
Typically, you wanna avoid places where you're not really allowed to talk (like libraries).
Bars and clubs are great places, as long as you don't mind loud noises and competition.
Typically, the best places to meet women are at parties.
Other than that, pretty much anywhere women can spend money: Malls, stores, restaurants (preferably with bars), coffee shops, etc.
If you really like books, instead of the library, try hanging out at book stores like Barns&Noble. Tons of women hang out there, and the coffee shops help with the pick-up.
If you're into gaming, maybe try online venues. Myspace and Friendster are big with women, and they're free, unlike dating sites.
Oh, and Fantasy conventions (ie: Anything to do with dragons) do attract a great deal of women, if that's your thing.
Thundercat
diablo
Master Don Juan
Well, I wouldn't really worry about where the "cool guys and gals go to hang out". Especially since you're 25; if the cool thing for grown-ups to do is hang out at a game room designed for kids about half of your age, then I'd say you might want to re-locate to a better city. Also, since in your other threads you've mentioned that you are attracted to overweight women, I would recommend that you stick around any good restaurant offering a buffet... that or you could start counselling at a Weight Watcher's program...Originally posted by knight56
Ummm......but what do you think of the game room?
You know the game room where cool guys and gals go to hang out!