"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Where do you go to pick up hotties?
- Thread starter knight56
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thundercat
Don Juan
Typically, you wanna avoid places where you're not really allowed to talk (like libraries).
Bars and clubs are great places, as long as you don't mind loud noises and competition.
Typically, the best places to meet women are at parties.
Other than that, pretty much anywhere women can spend money: Malls, stores, restaurants (preferably with bars), coffee shops, etc.
If you really like books, instead of the library, try hanging out at book stores like Barns&Noble. Tons of women hang out there, and the coffee shops help with the pick-up.
If you're into gaming, maybe try online venues. Myspace and Friendster are big with women, and they're free, unlike dating sites.
Oh, and Fantasy conventions (ie: Anything to do with dragons) do attract a great deal of women, if that's your thing.
Thundercat
diablo
Master Don Juan
Well, I wouldn't really worry about where the "cool guys and gals go to hang out". Especially since you're 25; if the cool thing for grown-ups to do is hang out at a game room designed for kids about half of your age, then I'd say you might want to re-locate to a better city. Also, since in your other threads you've mentioned that you are attracted to overweight women, I would recommend that you stick around any good restaurant offering a buffet... that or you could start counselling at a Weight Watcher's program...Originally posted by knight56
Ummm......but what do you think of the game room?
You know the game room where cool guys and gals go to hang out!