"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Where did the term "flake" come from?

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/flake

Origin:1350–1400; (noun) Middle English; akin to Old English flac- in flacox flying (said of arrows), Old Norse flakka to rove, wander, Middle Dutch vlacken to flutter;

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Talk:flake

there is a Norwegian word flak which means torn piece

...the word flectus( curved) is a cognate of flake.


I think a lot of very old words started out in an onomatopoetic sense - the word sounds like what it describes. An arrow flying through the air makes a 'ffffffff' sound. The "lak" is probably the arrow hitting something.

I'm also guessing all of this is also the origin of the last name of Baltimore's NFL quarterback: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Flacco
 

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Bible_Belt said:
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/flake

Origin:1350–1400; (noun) Middle English; akin to Old English flac- in flacox flying (said of arrows), Old Norse flakka to rove, wander, Middle Dutch vlacken to flutter;

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Talk:flake

there is a Norwegian word flak which means torn piece

...the word flectus( curved) is a cognate of flake.


I think a lot of very old words started out in an onomatopoetic sense - the word sounds like what it describes. An arrow flying through the air makes a 'ffffffff' sound. The "lak" is probably the arrow hitting something.

I'm also guessing all of this is also the origin of the last name of Baltimore's NFL quarterback: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Flacco
Sorry man, I meant the DJ term for "flake", as in to blow off or stand up.
 

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I always thought it was dandruff—just kidding.

I think what BPH was asking is who took the already existing word and applied it to dating, thus inventing a new usage of terminology. PUA terms originated from Usenet newsgroup discussions during the mid to late 1990's, so the origins were probably somewhere in there. Before then, there was no cultural terminology of “flaking” because there was no Internet for meta-game discussions—people were simply “stood up” or “cancelled.”
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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probably regional slang. like "that's fresh" or saying pop instead of soda
 

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I remember it being used in movies during the early '90s, seemed to just be another word for "unreliable" then.
 
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