"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where did the term "flake" come from?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bible_Belt

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http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/flake

Origin:1350–1400; (noun) Middle English; akin to Old English flac- in flacox flying (said of arrows), Old Norse flakka to rove, wander, Middle Dutch vlacken to flutter;

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Talk:flake

there is a Norwegian word flak which means torn piece

...the word flectus( curved) is a cognate of flake.


I think a lot of very old words started out in an onomatopoetic sense - the word sounds like what it describes. An arrow flying through the air makes a 'ffffffff' sound. The "lak" is probably the arrow hitting something.

I'm also guessing all of this is also the origin of the last name of Baltimore's NFL quarterback: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Flacco
 

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Bible_Belt said:
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/flake

Origin:1350–1400; (noun) Middle English; akin to Old English flac- in flacox flying (said of arrows), Old Norse flakka to rove, wander, Middle Dutch vlacken to flutter;

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/Talk:flake

there is a Norwegian word flak which means torn piece

...the word flectus( curved) is a cognate of flake.


I think a lot of very old words started out in an onomatopoetic sense - the word sounds like what it describes. An arrow flying through the air makes a 'ffffffff' sound. The "lak" is probably the arrow hitting something.

I'm also guessing all of this is also the origin of the last name of Baltimore's NFL quarterback: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joe_Flacco
Sorry man, I meant the DJ term for "flake", as in to blow off or stand up.
 

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I always thought it was dandruff—just kidding.

I think what BPH was asking is who took the already existing word and applied it to dating, thus inventing a new usage of terminology. PUA terms originated from Usenet newsgroup discussions during the mid to late 1990's, so the origins were probably somewhere in there. Before then, there was no cultural terminology of “flaking” because there was no Internet for meta-game discussions—people were simply “stood up” or “cancelled.”
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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probably regional slang. like "that's fresh" or saying pop instead of soda
 

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I remember it being used in movies during the early '90s, seemed to just be another word for "unreliable" then.
 
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