You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Just remember that people at church are still people. But they are at least people who have taken the first step at wanting to find a purpose for life. And many times, you'll have to be beaten and broken down to your knees to ever truly take that step. All that to say, that church girls, at least single middle-aged ones, may not be what you think they are. If your target is early 20s types, then maybe they are.Desdinova said:I'm kinda on a break until my divorce is finished. However, I'm not going to throw away a lay that falls into my lap.
For a couple of years now, I've been thinking about doing some church sarging. I don't believe in God by any means, but my theory is any women who were raised with the Bible's teachings on how a woman should behave will be of much higher quality. Just gotta watch out for the nutty zealots.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Why? Is it personal?sharkbeat said:I am in a very awkward state right now that I havent gone out to "meet" women for this past year. I kind-of not wanting to relate to them. If you want seks, you would need to chat them up, call them, set up dates, and ****, I just dont want to go throught that right now.
For me it was temporary insanity. I was in my early thirties and had been dumped by a woman I was nuts about because I would not leave the Army and was stationed in Europe... Met a Scotish girl and married. HUGE mistake but got two great kids out of the deal.Tenacity said:Lol, man why do you guys still get married? Can someone please explain it to me....I'm lost....
You know in your 20s, you would go out to meet girls. Why do you go to bars? Meet chicks. The sole reason of you leaving your home is to meet chicks. That's what 20s are like, at least for me.Rainman4707 said:Why? Is it personal?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.