I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Just remember that people at church are still people. But they are at least people who have taken the first step at wanting to find a purpose for life. And many times, you'll have to be beaten and broken down to your knees to ever truly take that step. All that to say, that church girls, at least single middle-aged ones, may not be what you think they are. If your target is early 20s types, then maybe they are.Desdinova said:I'm kinda on a break until my divorce is finished. However, I'm not going to throw away a lay that falls into my lap.
For a couple of years now, I've been thinking about doing some church sarging. I don't believe in God by any means, but my theory is any women who were raised with the Bible's teachings on how a woman should behave will be of much higher quality. Just gotta watch out for the nutty zealots.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why? Is it personal?sharkbeat said:I am in a very awkward state right now that I havent gone out to "meet" women for this past year. I kind-of not wanting to relate to them. If you want seks, you would need to chat them up, call them, set up dates, and ****, I just dont want to go throught that right now.
For me it was temporary insanity. I was in my early thirties and had been dumped by a woman I was nuts about because I would not leave the Army and was stationed in Europe... Met a Scotish girl and married. HUGE mistake but got two great kids out of the deal.Tenacity said:Lol, man why do you guys still get married? Can someone please explain it to me....I'm lost....
You know in your 20s, you would go out to meet girls. Why do you go to bars? Meet chicks. The sole reason of you leaving your home is to meet chicks. That's what 20s are like, at least for me.Rainman4707 said:Why? Is it personal?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.