"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
when your friends get a gf
- Thread starter rocco
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Francisco d'Anconia
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Francisco d'Anconia
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rocco said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
That's AFC.rocco said:
for teenagers yes - when a guy gets a gf he tends to drink from the fountain every moment of every day that he can and neglect everythign else in his life.
as an adult, it shouldn't affect the relationship between two guy friends. most adult women are fine with their guy having guy friends that they go play golf with or whatever.
as for coping with the change, thats pretty easy.
you should never ever depend on the people around you such that if they just picked up and left you'd be dire straights (whether that be emotionally, financially or whatever).
i've had friends come and go over the years. and while it may be disappionting to see them go - i don't see them as being a part of my own strength. my strength is independent of anyone else in this world - so i just move on and keep moving forward whether im surrounding with friends or have none at any given time.
Short Story: My workout partner and I started working out together in September and shortly after that around November his gf and him broke up. He started coming to the gym more regularly, calling me all the time to hang out and do stuff and we pretty much were kicking it outside of the gym 3-4 days a week. I was dating girls but had no gf and had no intentions of getting into a LTR.
In about 3-4 months he started getting into much better shape at the gym and we went out to the clubs and some girls were hitting/approaching him. He didnt get any numbers though and did not make any approaches at all. He did however completely swear off having a GF and said he planned on meeting and hooking up with some new hors. Well his ex and him met at a party a few weeks into the new year and she noticed he was in better shape. (By the way, now is the time to mention that she broke up with him so she could fvck another guy). Back to the story. So she notices he's in better shape and tells him that and says she wants to get back with him. Two weeks later they are officially back together... but there's more...
He slowly stops coming to the gym as often. First its a missed day here and there to hang out with her. Then he's gone all weekend with her. Then its bike rides with her every day INSTEAD of the gym. And now he hasn't been to the gym in about a month. Calls me and says he'll be there but never shows and always i'm being given an excuse as to why. True story.
my buddy got a GF. We used to chill and hang like 3-4 days a week, sometimes even more probably. We haven't chilled in 3 months. Well I started going out more and meeting new people so I guess it worked to both of our advantages. Kinda his loss too... our friendship grew apart a bit recently
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Francisco d'Anconia said:
I agree man. unfortunalley (sp) my two best friends were AFC they were my best friends for probably 12 years. then they got g/f and they were to cool to hang out with me. so after awhile it got so dumb I stopped talking to them.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
You understand. Now get this, if these guys get married and have kids it will probably happen to them. Women who tend to be the focus in a relationship make their children the focus of the family. That's why there's a lot of married men who feel that their dog get more affection than they do because their wife focuses all their efforts on the kids. THEN guess who the husbands end up calling to ask to hang out with "for old times sake."killbill said:
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obviously, your friends will need to make time for their girls, but if they are AFCs, they will get sucked in and spend almost all of their time with the girls.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Many inexperienced or misinformed guys do this too. I knew someone who went psycho after a girl dumped him. There was a reason why he went psycho: He spent every night on the phone with her for 2-3 hours talking and talking. He grew close and addicted to her mindless chatter and when he was weened off..he cried. Instead of hanging out with his boys or seeking out buddies he always looked forward into hearing her voice or seeing her.