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Willie Naylor

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How would you handle it?
 

TheCharmingGuy

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Ask her. It’s the easiest way to find out and sometimes she will even admit it when confronted. If at any point you get proof or insurmountable evidence, and she will not either tell you the truth or give a logical explanation… dump. And I don’t keep her as a plate either…. Never play second fiddle to another man she cheated on you with.
 

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Do whatever it takes to give her less energy and attention(go out, train, money, passion, kids). She will eventually confront you about it. From the way she does it you might be able to tell. Push/Pull until she slips. I am against directly asking her.

If she doesn't confront you after a week or so, she most likely got real good replacement.

You suspecting stuff is already a bumpy road. It rarely gets smoother.
 

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say nothing until you have proof, unless you are going nuts from bottling it up.
 

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I've never personally been cheated on before, but definitely had chicks branch swing, but as we all know it's over at that point. If I was in a marriage or true LTR where I suspected it, I'd LIKE TO THINK I'd be cool and just maneuver around long enough to get hard proof to bury them. Of course it's rarely that easy when you're going through the motions of it. I would NOT directly ask her, she's a woman, she won't admit anything. If anything she'll turn it around on you, and somehow will justify it in her chick mind.
 

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How would you handle it?
Already too late. Your about 10 months behind because said man is to stupid atm to understand whats going on.
He got away from
Game money and muscle which should be the next 3 right after purposeful passion.

Now she has found someone who has all 4 going on.

The suspicions should be on her. Not you.

NEXT
 

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Already too late. Your about 10 months behind because said man is to stupid atm to understand whats going on.
He got away from
Game money and muscle which should be the next 3 right after purposeful passion.

Now she has found someone who has all 4 going on.

The suspicions should be on her. Not you.

NEXT
I think I'm just going to start buying her expensive jewelry and taking her on exotic trips.

I hope she'll start to realize that we're soulmates.
 

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If you think she's cheating, use electronic surveillance or spyware to find out. Then, depending on your circumstances, find a way to remove her from your house without telling her that it will be permanent and make sure that she doesn't have any way to get at your money. Or, if you don't live with her and don't really care, start cheating as well yourself and see her once or twice a week just to bang.
 

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How would you handle it?
  1. Have full control over your emotions, be ready to confront a worst-case scenario. Be stone cold.
  2. Investigate where the loopholes are and give her more rope until she hangs herself by making it seem increasingly easier to cheat that she starts getting sloppy
  3. If she actually IS cheating, make a solid exit plan. If she isn’t she’ll start wanting to spend more time and you can give it a rest.
 

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Confirm the cheating and leave.
 

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Make sure it’s not your own insecurities talking. Back in the day, I was quick to act out on suspicions that didn’t exist. Beta just bought a ticket to bye bye.
If she has obvious behavior changes, you can’t directly alter hers but you can sure as hell change yours. Mirror it x 10 if you have to.
If she’s already checked out, walk away a man and read the No contact forums.
 

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  1. Have full control over your emotions, be ready to confront a worst-case scenario. Be stone cold.
  2. Investigate where the loopholes are and give her more rope until she hangs herself by making it seem increasingly easier to cheat that she starts getting sloppy
  3. If she actually IS cheating, make a solid exit plan. If she isn’t she’ll start wanting to spend more time and you can give it a rest.
This is how I’d play it too
Well said.
 

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Give her more rope to hang herself. Meanwhile start paying attention to all the minor details like never before. Your answer will become clear soon enough. When you have the facts, give her a one way ticket out.
 

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In the world we live in, chances are if you really suspect something is going on, then it most likely is. Women can cheat and do so with near silence and keep it to them selves secretive for years on end. If something is setting of warning signs then most likely something is going on.

If it were me, I agree with everyone else short answers. It's simply next. The damage to your heart and the recovery process of holding on is too big of a risk and waste. No woman is worth that.
 

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Most signs of cheating are a really ****ty relationship. So if your relationship sucks get out ASAP and if your relationship remains great then assume you're being paranoid until your relationship starts to suck.

Chances are if she's actually cheating she's not going to be able to (or want to) maintain a perfect relationship with you while finding time and energy to bang other dudes.
 

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Most signs of cheating are a really ****ty relationship. So if your relationship sucks get out ASAP and if your relationship remains great then assume you're being paranoid until your relationship starts to suck.

Chances are if she's actually cheating she's not going to be able to (or want to) maintain a perfect relationship with you while finding time and energy to bang other dudes.
True.
 
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