"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When you feel FEAR, get CURIOUS!

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One of my biggest Inner Game breakthroughs came a little while ago, but I've only now just realised how to put it into words.

I used to see fear as just fear; something to be afraid of.

Now, when I get that feeling of fear, I get a feeling that I need to investigate it.

We all fear the UNKNOWN, so what if we get curious and want to discover everything about that thing? When we know everything about it, suddenly we NO LONGER fear it!

In the old days, I used to know next to nothing about women and dating and relationships. I got curious and I started INVESTIGATING. Soon, it wasn't an unknown anymore, and guess what? The fear was gone.

When you feel the fear, they say do it anyway! That's true. I get curious and I plough into whatever it is I fear. I discover EVERYTHING ABOUT IT and the fear disappears!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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There is no such thing as a "quick fix" to getting over your fears. There's a huge stress factor when you're meeting women and dating women when you've never done it much before. You have to take it piece by piece. I mean, I appreciate the thought, but I don't think it'll be that easy for you to break through your fears.
 
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Yeah, its a good idea to examine your fears and all your feelings for that matter. Its mostly a subconscious thing so it takes time to overcome your fears.
 
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^^ Agreed. Fear is something that truly takes time to get through, it can go away temporarily but permanently...does take time. Don't try to resist fear as it'll get stronger. Work with it, feel the fear but take action anyways. :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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