"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When you feel FEAR, get CURIOUS!

tripleplay

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One of my biggest Inner Game breakthroughs came a little while ago, but I've only now just realised how to put it into words.

I used to see fear as just fear; something to be afraid of.

Now, when I get that feeling of fear, I get a feeling that I need to investigate it.

We all fear the UNKNOWN, so what if we get curious and want to discover everything about that thing? When we know everything about it, suddenly we NO LONGER fear it!

In the old days, I used to know next to nothing about women and dating and relationships. I got curious and I started INVESTIGATING. Soon, it wasn't an unknown anymore, and guess what? The fear was gone.

When you feel the fear, they say do it anyway! That's true. I get curious and I plough into whatever it is I fear. I discover EVERYTHING ABOUT IT and the fear disappears!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The Deacon

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There is no such thing as a "quick fix" to getting over your fears. There's a huge stress factor when you're meeting women and dating women when you've never done it much before. You have to take it piece by piece. I mean, I appreciate the thought, but I don't think it'll be that easy for you to break through your fears.
 

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Yeah, its a good idea to examine your fears and all your feelings for that matter. Its mostly a subconscious thing so it takes time to overcome your fears.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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^^ Agreed. Fear is something that truly takes time to get through, it can go away temporarily but permanently...does take time. Don't try to resist fear as it'll get stronger. Work with it, feel the fear but take action anyways. :)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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