"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When you feel FEAR, get CURIOUS!

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One of my biggest Inner Game breakthroughs came a little while ago, but I've only now just realised how to put it into words.

I used to see fear as just fear; something to be afraid of.

Now, when I get that feeling of fear, I get a feeling that I need to investigate it.

We all fear the UNKNOWN, so what if we get curious and want to discover everything about that thing? When we know everything about it, suddenly we NO LONGER fear it!

In the old days, I used to know next to nothing about women and dating and relationships. I got curious and I started INVESTIGATING. Soon, it wasn't an unknown anymore, and guess what? The fear was gone.

When you feel the fear, they say do it anyway! That's true. I get curious and I plough into whatever it is I fear. I discover EVERYTHING ABOUT IT and the fear disappears!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Deacon

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There is no such thing as a "quick fix" to getting over your fears. There's a huge stress factor when you're meeting women and dating women when you've never done it much before. You have to take it piece by piece. I mean, I appreciate the thought, but I don't think it'll be that easy for you to break through your fears.
 

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Yeah, its a good idea to examine your fears and all your feelings for that matter. Its mostly a subconscious thing so it takes time to overcome your fears.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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^^ Agreed. Fear is something that truly takes time to get through, it can go away temporarily but permanently...does take time. Don't try to resist fear as it'll get stronger. Work with it, feel the fear but take action anyways. :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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