"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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When you feel FEAR, get CURIOUS!

tripleplay

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One of my biggest Inner Game breakthroughs came a little while ago, but I've only now just realised how to put it into words.

I used to see fear as just fear; something to be afraid of.

Now, when I get that feeling of fear, I get a feeling that I need to investigate it.

We all fear the UNKNOWN, so what if we get curious and want to discover everything about that thing? When we know everything about it, suddenly we NO LONGER fear it!

In the old days, I used to know next to nothing about women and dating and relationships. I got curious and I started INVESTIGATING. Soon, it wasn't an unknown anymore, and guess what? The fear was gone.

When you feel the fear, they say do it anyway! That's true. I get curious and I plough into whatever it is I fear. I discover EVERYTHING ABOUT IT and the fear disappears!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Deacon

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There is no such thing as a "quick fix" to getting over your fears. There's a huge stress factor when you're meeting women and dating women when you've never done it much before. You have to take it piece by piece. I mean, I appreciate the thought, but I don't think it'll be that easy for you to break through your fears.
 

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Yeah, its a good idea to examine your fears and all your feelings for that matter. Its mostly a subconscious thing so it takes time to overcome your fears.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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^^ Agreed. Fear is something that truly takes time to get through, it can go away temporarily but permanently...does take time. Don't try to resist fear as it'll get stronger. Work with it, feel the fear but take action anyways. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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