"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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When you can't NEXT

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I have this girl I've known for about a year. We're good friends, but I think I want to take it further. I checked these forums out about three years ago under a different name. I'm naturally outgoing and funny(I think). Mainly I just decided when it comes to girls to do what I want to do, and if she doesn't like it, I NEXT her. This leads to a lot less girls on my plate, but the relationships I do have are great. I've only had two bad breakups and both of those were from girls who approached me and I figured "Why not?"

Anyway, I can't NEXT her because I like her a lot and we hang out pretty frequently and if it goes down bad, that would get messed up. I guess what I'm asking is the best way to go after her without jeapordizing the friendship.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Anyway, I can't NEXT her because I like her a lot and we hang out pretty frequently and if it goes down bad, that would get messed up. I guess what I'm asking is the best way to go after her without jeapordizing the friendship.
you do know that was just a bunch of jibberish for she's my oneitis right?
 

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There is no best way. Anyway you go about it will risk the friendship.

Either continue the friendship and go look for other girls, or risk it for her. Don't expect much better responses because anyway you look at it, there is no 'Right way".
 

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Ok, let's say its oneitis. Hypothetically. (No, really, I can't tell. It's been so long.) In the best interest of my game, should I:

1. Say F*** it, and go for it?

2. Suck it up and go after other chicks?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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couldn't have said it better myself. and whenever you say

No, really, I can't tell. It's been so long.
trust me.. it's oneitis
 

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I think you're right. I'm way too into her for my own good. We're supposed to go out tomorrow and I'll just do the regular stuff (joking around, up the kino, etc.) I'll tell you all what happens.
 

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how about not going out with her and actually trying to find ass that wants to fvck you instead of drain your pocket for free dates?

every day you spend with her, is a day you aren't getting ass
 

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I don't want to give you the impression we go out all the time on dates that aren't really dates and I pay for em. This is the first time we've gone out just the two of us. Usually it's me, her, and her roommate. And seeing how it's a Sunday, I'm not gonna be in the mood for clubbing. But tonight is a different story entirely.
 

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still.. it's not a date becuase you aren't courting her. it's you taking her out and paying for her company.

in this situation, you are paying for her time, meaning you are associating her as the prize. subconsciously, you think of her that way. that's the problem not taking her out per say.

if you had your **** together in life, had the job you wanted, had a rockin body, had a good job.. would this chick even be an option?
I didn't think so
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's not a date, and I'm not expecting to pay for her. She has no reason to expect me to pay. In name only it won't be a date, but I still expect to end the night with something. As for the last part, I'll step to any chick. I'm only 20, I'm skinny, but I got potential, I think. She isn't the best looking I've pulled, but she ain't bad.
 

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AFC's think about doing things and DJ's DO them.
Kiss the girl or move on, either way - risk nothing and gain nothing.
 

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She said she was sick and couldn't make it. I don't doubt she was a little under the weather, but she obviously ain't interested and I'm not going to chase her. I realize now I was making a lot of little mistakes and messed it up. You were right, backbreaker. She's really not all that, and I didn't call her on her bull way too many times. The only thing to do know is get on some of these other girls I been neglecting. Peace.
 
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