"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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When you can't NEXT

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I have this girl I've known for about a year. We're good friends, but I think I want to take it further. I checked these forums out about three years ago under a different name. I'm naturally outgoing and funny(I think). Mainly I just decided when it comes to girls to do what I want to do, and if she doesn't like it, I NEXT her. This leads to a lot less girls on my plate, but the relationships I do have are great. I've only had two bad breakups and both of those were from girls who approached me and I figured "Why not?"

Anyway, I can't NEXT her because I like her a lot and we hang out pretty frequently and if it goes down bad, that would get messed up. I guess what I'm asking is the best way to go after her without jeapordizing the friendship.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Anyway, I can't NEXT her because I like her a lot and we hang out pretty frequently and if it goes down bad, that would get messed up. I guess what I'm asking is the best way to go after her without jeapordizing the friendship.
you do know that was just a bunch of jibberish for she's my oneitis right?
 

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There is no best way. Anyway you go about it will risk the friendship.

Either continue the friendship and go look for other girls, or risk it for her. Don't expect much better responses because anyway you look at it, there is no 'Right way".
 

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Ok, let's say its oneitis. Hypothetically. (No, really, I can't tell. It's been so long.) In the best interest of my game, should I:

1. Say F*** it, and go for it?

2. Suck it up and go after other chicks?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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couldn't have said it better myself. and whenever you say

No, really, I can't tell. It's been so long.
trust me.. it's oneitis
 

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I think you're right. I'm way too into her for my own good. We're supposed to go out tomorrow and I'll just do the regular stuff (joking around, up the kino, etc.) I'll tell you all what happens.
 

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how about not going out with her and actually trying to find ass that wants to fvck you instead of drain your pocket for free dates?

every day you spend with her, is a day you aren't getting ass
 

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I don't want to give you the impression we go out all the time on dates that aren't really dates and I pay for em. This is the first time we've gone out just the two of us. Usually it's me, her, and her roommate. And seeing how it's a Sunday, I'm not gonna be in the mood for clubbing. But tonight is a different story entirely.
 

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still.. it's not a date becuase you aren't courting her. it's you taking her out and paying for her company.

in this situation, you are paying for her time, meaning you are associating her as the prize. subconsciously, you think of her that way. that's the problem not taking her out per say.

if you had your **** together in life, had the job you wanted, had a rockin body, had a good job.. would this chick even be an option?
I didn't think so
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's not a date, and I'm not expecting to pay for her. She has no reason to expect me to pay. In name only it won't be a date, but I still expect to end the night with something. As for the last part, I'll step to any chick. I'm only 20, I'm skinny, but I got potential, I think. She isn't the best looking I've pulled, but she ain't bad.
 

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AFC's think about doing things and DJ's DO them.
Kiss the girl or move on, either way - risk nothing and gain nothing.
 

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She said she was sick and couldn't make it. I don't doubt she was a little under the weather, but she obviously ain't interested and I'm not going to chase her. I realize now I was making a lot of little mistakes and messed it up. You were right, backbreaker. She's really not all that, and I didn't call her on her bull way too many times. The only thing to do know is get on some of these other girls I been neglecting. Peace.
 
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