"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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when you are sore

speakeasy

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My legs are still sore as hell from a workout earlier in the week. Yesterday I was still having trouble walking up stairs. I am still sore today but did make it out to do some MMA and one they got warmed up a bit I was able to work today.

But my question is, when you are sore, should you completely lay off using the muscles until they are completely pain-free again?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blackbelt2k

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i don't think so...just lower the weight if you have to, but continue to punish them... as the old addage goes "no pain no gain"
 

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But doesn't the pain mean that the muscles are regenerating? By continuing to work them while they're sore are you stopping the healing process that makes them grow?
 

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That sounds like a recipe for overtraining. I'd recommend taking a couple days off from lifting until you feel better. The adage "no pain no gain" is a recipe for injuries, your muscles and nervous system need to recover.
 

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use epson salt in a warm bath to ease muscle pain
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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stronglifts

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speakeasy said:
But doesn't the pain mean that the muscles are regenerating? By continuing to work them while they're sore are you stopping the healing process that makes them grow?
No it will actually help the recovery process. By working out, you get blood flowing into your legs. Blood has nutritients, needed for recovery.

The best thing to do when you have sore legs is to train them again. Just do it light, the goal is recovery, not exhausting the legs once again.
 

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i use a different muscle group when certain muscles are sore. i rest them at least 3-4 days.
 
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