"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
when you are not in school , where you guys have met your gf or wife ?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
I work at the riding stables, shoeing horses, all my clients are women.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
1) School
2) Friends
3) Work
4) Friends
5) Internet
6) Friends / Work
If you have friends that are social and outgoing, especially ones that are invited to house parties etc, then that is a good avenue, but only if you seek a girlfriend.
SH
Aristippus
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Another possibility, if you're wondering where to meet women, is to join a group related to an interest you have or to go places related to interests you have. You'll share an interest in common if you meet women there or if there are no women in the group and there are any guys in the group that you'd like to hang out with, do that. You can make new friends and there's also a possibility that at some point in the future they will introduce you to other people in their social circle.
You can also do the same with the women in the club/group that is related to your interests. Instead of dating within the group, you can make female friends and then become a part of her social circle, which might actually lead to you meeting more women. Doing that might serve you better and you'll avoid introducing drama into a fun group of people that share an interest or hobby.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
We've been married for almost 17 years and have a 14 year old daughter, so I'm not sure your assumptions of club girls being unserious really holds much water.
It's not the venue where you meet, it's your ability to discern her sincerity, motives and methods.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.