"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
when you are not in school , where you guys have met your gf or wife ?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
I work at the riding stables, shoeing horses, all my clients are women.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
1) School
2) Friends
3) Work
4) Friends
5) Internet
6) Friends / Work
If you have friends that are social and outgoing, especially ones that are invited to house parties etc, then that is a good avenue, but only if you seek a girlfriend.
SH
Aristippus
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Another possibility, if you're wondering where to meet women, is to join a group related to an interest you have or to go places related to interests you have. You'll share an interest in common if you meet women there or if there are no women in the group and there are any guys in the group that you'd like to hang out with, do that. You can make new friends and there's also a possibility that at some point in the future they will introduce you to other people in their social circle.
You can also do the same with the women in the club/group that is related to your interests. Instead of dating within the group, you can make female friends and then become a part of her social circle, which might actually lead to you meeting more women. Doing that might serve you better and you'll avoid introducing drama into a fun group of people that share an interest or hobby.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
We've been married for almost 17 years and have a 14 year old daughter, so I'm not sure your assumptions of club girls being unserious really holds much water.
It's not the venue where you meet, it's your ability to discern her sincerity, motives and methods.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.