"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
when you are not in school , where you guys have met your gf or wife ?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
I work at the riding stables, shoeing horses, all my clients are women.
SecondHalf
Master Don Juan
1) School
2) Friends
3) Work
4) Friends
5) Internet
6) Friends / Work
If you have friends that are social and outgoing, especially ones that are invited to house parties etc, then that is a good avenue, but only if you seek a girlfriend.
SH
Aristippus
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Another possibility, if you're wondering where to meet women, is to join a group related to an interest you have or to go places related to interests you have. You'll share an interest in common if you meet women there or if there are no women in the group and there are any guys in the group that you'd like to hang out with, do that. You can make new friends and there's also a possibility that at some point in the future they will introduce you to other people in their social circle.
You can also do the same with the women in the club/group that is related to your interests. Instead of dating within the group, you can make female friends and then become a part of her social circle, which might actually lead to you meeting more women. Doing that might serve you better and you'll avoid introducing drama into a fun group of people that share an interest or hobby.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
We've been married for almost 17 years and have a 14 year old daughter, so I'm not sure your assumptions of club girls being unserious really holds much water.
It's not the venue where you meet, it's your ability to discern her sincerity, motives and methods.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.