"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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When would you flake?

Yo'Mama

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There's a girl you find hot. You have a first date set up. Would you flake if you:

1. Got ill. I don't mean something serious, just a bad cold or something.

2. Something else came up that you 'had' to attend - going away party, etc.

3. Were hungover from the night before.

4. Didn't feel like going out because you were in a bad mood.

etc, etc.

I'm guessing guys wouldn't flake for any of these reasons right? I don't think I would.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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JdelaSilviera

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Yo'Mama said:
There's a girl you find hot. You have a first date set up. Would you flake if you:

1. Got ill. I don't mean something serious, just a bad cold or something.

2. Something else came up that you 'had' to attend - going away party, etc.

3. Were hungover from the night before.

4. Didn't feel like going out because you were in a bad mood.

etc, etc.

I'm guessing guys wouldn't flake for any of these reasons right? I don't think I would.
Except from 2. I would flake for the other reasons, (as I already did). You want to be at your best in a date...
 
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The only reason I wouldn't attend a date is if I was ill. I'm not the best company when I'm ill, so I wouldn't want to ruin a date and waste time and money by going through with it. Otherwise if I've set up a date I'll attend.
 

Chamber36

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I would attend unless the going away party was thrown by someone important.
 

Hollow.man

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I've flakes for all the reasons you've stated. I've also flaked to watch the match with mates, and probably flaked to eat pizza with the lads on more than one occasion.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SgtSplacker

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If I think i'm not going to enjoy myself i'll flake every time. I try to be as objective and fair as I can because I have a tendency to not want to leave my house. But if i'm sick, on a budget, bad mood, or whatever i'll flake. I have to honestly ask myself if I reeeeeeeeely think i'll enjoy the night. Then i'll go. It was to be like that with me because if i'm not into being out then I usually feel it was a waste of fundage..
 
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