"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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When would you flake?

Yo'Mama

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There's a girl you find hot. You have a first date set up. Would you flake if you:

1. Got ill. I don't mean something serious, just a bad cold or something.

2. Something else came up that you 'had' to attend - going away party, etc.

3. Were hungover from the night before.

4. Didn't feel like going out because you were in a bad mood.

etc, etc.

I'm guessing guys wouldn't flake for any of these reasons right? I don't think I would.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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JdelaSilviera

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Yo'Mama said:
There's a girl you find hot. You have a first date set up. Would you flake if you:

1. Got ill. I don't mean something serious, just a bad cold or something.

2. Something else came up that you 'had' to attend - going away party, etc.

3. Were hungover from the night before.

4. Didn't feel like going out because you were in a bad mood.

etc, etc.

I'm guessing guys wouldn't flake for any of these reasons right? I don't think I would.
Except from 2. I would flake for the other reasons, (as I already did). You want to be at your best in a date...
 
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The only reason I wouldn't attend a date is if I was ill. I'm not the best company when I'm ill, so I wouldn't want to ruin a date and waste time and money by going through with it. Otherwise if I've set up a date I'll attend.
 

Chamber36

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I would attend unless the going away party was thrown by someone important.
 

Hollow.man

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I've flakes for all the reasons you've stated. I've also flaked to watch the match with mates, and probably flaked to eat pizza with the lads on more than one occasion.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SgtSplacker

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If I think i'm not going to enjoy myself i'll flake every time. I try to be as objective and fair as I can because I have a tendency to not want to leave my house. But if i'm sick, on a budget, bad mood, or whatever i'll flake. I have to honestly ask myself if I reeeeeeeeely think i'll enjoy the night. Then i'll go. It was to be like that with me because if i'm not into being out then I usually feel it was a waste of fundage..
 
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