aiforce_juan
Don Juan
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what does that make you think of them?? Im just wondering
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Like this post says, the order of things is important.Originally posted by senator
It usually means they're not interested. For whatever reason, they feel uncomfortable in saying so in person and may give you a false hope . Now, when they refuse to give me their number, and they in turn ask for mine, I'll then refuse. Even in the past when I would give my number, i would promtly forget about them.
No, that's not how it works. They expect you to take the initiative and ask them. If that doesn't work, they'll do some "work" and hint and be subtle and see if you'll ask. If you still don't ask, they'll start making it obvisous, "we should get together sometime." You are right when you say they chase you wanting YOU to ask for the nubmer, no doubt about it. She still wants you to ask her, but most of the time she won't, specially if she's gone through all the steps and you haven't caught on or shown interest.Originally posted by aiforce_juan
lately, women have been chasing me and wanting ME to ask for their number ( I believe)
If they were interested, shouldn't they have asked my number already or not necessarily?