aiforce_juan
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what does that make you think of them?? Im just wondering
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Like this post says, the order of things is important.Originally posted by senator
It usually means they're not interested. For whatever reason, they feel uncomfortable in saying so in person and may give you a false hope . Now, when they refuse to give me their number, and they in turn ask for mine, I'll then refuse. Even in the past when I would give my number, i would promtly forget about them.
No, that's not how it works. They expect you to take the initiative and ask them. If that doesn't work, they'll do some "work" and hint and be subtle and see if you'll ask. If you still don't ask, they'll start making it obvisous, "we should get together sometime." You are right when you say they chase you wanting YOU to ask for the nubmer, no doubt about it. She still wants you to ask her, but most of the time she won't, specially if she's gone through all the steps and you haven't caught on or shown interest.Originally posted by aiforce_juan
lately, women have been chasing me and wanting ME to ask for their number ( I believe)
If they were interested, shouldn't they have asked my number already or not necessarily?