so i been using condoms with this girl i see .. im sure she doesnt have aids ... but im just being safe cause i dont want her getting pregnant. should i do the pull out method? i dunno what to do.. if i keep using condoms is that offending to her as in saying i think shes got diseases?
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when to stop using condoms?
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
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Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Ironically, your name is "chance." 
Is she on birth control?
Is she on birth control?
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
That's just safety, common sense, and intelligence, and should never be considered offensive.
Make sure she's actually on birth control if you decide to go at it bareback.
Make sure she's actually on birth control if you decide to go at it bareback.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
you know, there are other things to catch besides aids... like children... and hepatitis and etc....
so as long as you dont want to catch any of it.... you should always wrap it up.
so as long as you dont want to catch any of it.... you should always wrap it up.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
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There's an extremely low chance she has aids, so the main things you need to worry about are more common STDs like hepatitus and, of course, pregnancy.
Make sure she's on a reliable form of birth control, and that you know her well enough and trust her enough to know she doesn't have an STD.
Make sure she's on a reliable form of birth control, and that you know her well enough and trust her enough to know she doesn't have an STD.
killahpl
Don Juan
Sorry, but it's beyond me how anyone can ask a question like this in the 21st century.chance- said:
I mean, I wouldn't put it in a girl's vag without a condom on even if she presented me with a stack documents from a medical commitee certifying that she was free from any diseases...
killahpl
Don Juan
That's not the point. Feel free to stop using condoms whenever you trust this girl enough to be sure that she's telling the truth when she says that she took the pill, regardless of whether she is your gf at that point or not.chance- said:
The point I'm trying to make is, condom + birth control pills = always safer than one without the other. I just don't want a kid , y'know? :rockon:
condoms also would protect her from your own diseases
explain that to her if the conversation comes up. birth control pills are not 100% too, so to be safe, even if she is on birth control to still use condoms
in short my answer is never
explain that to her if the conversation comes up. birth control pills are not 100% too, so to be safe, even if she is on birth control to still use condoms
in short my answer is never
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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You can stop using condoms when you want to have kids.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
How do you ever trust a woman not to lie and get knocked up,married by you?
This is kind og a dumb question. The answer is: Only when you are ready to have a child AND when SHE is ready to have a child AND when you both have been tested AND you are ready to deal with any consequences that could result from unprotected sex, including children and any STD.
CarlitosWay
Master Don Juan
Not saying it will happen to you but...some guys have knocked up chics who were even on birth control. Some of us get pre-mature ejaculation and you're gambling with the pull out method. Also what if she wants to have a kid and decides to not take her pills or encourage you to bust inside of her. ffs think man. this is your future you're gambling with!!!!!!chance- said:
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One of the dumbest questions on here.
You hold a dangerous weapon in your hands and you want to wave it a round without the safety on...
Which country are you in? Don't you have sex education at your school?
You hold a dangerous weapon in your hands and you want to wave it a round without the safety on...
Which country are you in? Don't you have sex education at your school?