so i been using condoms with this girl i see .. im sure she doesnt have aids ... but im just being safe cause i dont want her getting pregnant. should i do the pull out method? i dunno what to do.. if i keep using condoms is that offending to her as in saying i think shes got diseases?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
when to stop using condoms?
- Thread starter chance-
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Ironically, your name is "chance." 
Is she on birth control?
Is she on birth control?
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
That's just safety, common sense, and intelligence, and should never be considered offensive.
Make sure she's actually on birth control if you decide to go at it bareback.
Make sure she's actually on birth control if you decide to go at it bareback.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
you know, there are other things to catch besides aids... like children... and hepatitis and etc....
so as long as you dont want to catch any of it.... you should always wrap it up.
so as long as you dont want to catch any of it.... you should always wrap it up.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
There's an extremely low chance she has aids, so the main things you need to worry about are more common STDs like hepatitus and, of course, pregnancy.
Make sure she's on a reliable form of birth control, and that you know her well enough and trust her enough to know she doesn't have an STD.
Make sure she's on a reliable form of birth control, and that you know her well enough and trust her enough to know she doesn't have an STD.
killahpl
Don Juan
Sorry, but it's beyond me how anyone can ask a question like this in the 21st century.chance- said:
I mean, I wouldn't put it in a girl's vag without a condom on even if she presented me with a stack documents from a medical commitee certifying that she was free from any diseases...
killahpl
Don Juan
That's not the point. Feel free to stop using condoms whenever you trust this girl enough to be sure that she's telling the truth when she says that she took the pill, regardless of whether she is your gf at that point or not.chance- said:
The point I'm trying to make is, condom + birth control pills = always safer than one without the other. I just don't want a kid , y'know? :rockon:
condoms also would protect her from your own diseases
explain that to her if the conversation comes up. birth control pills are not 100% too, so to be safe, even if she is on birth control to still use condoms
in short my answer is never
explain that to her if the conversation comes up. birth control pills are not 100% too, so to be safe, even if she is on birth control to still use condoms
in short my answer is never
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
squirrels
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You can stop using condoms when you want to have kids.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
How do you ever trust a woman not to lie and get knocked up,married by you?
This is kind og a dumb question. The answer is: Only when you are ready to have a child AND when SHE is ready to have a child AND when you both have been tested AND you are ready to deal with any consequences that could result from unprotected sex, including children and any STD.
CarlitosWay
Master Don Juan
Not saying it will happen to you but...some guys have knocked up chics who were even on birth control. Some of us get pre-mature ejaculation and you're gambling with the pull out method. Also what if she wants to have a kid and decides to not take her pills or encourage you to bust inside of her. ffs think man. this is your future you're gambling with!!!!!!chance- said:
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
One of the dumbest questions on here.
You hold a dangerous weapon in your hands and you want to wave it a round without the safety on...
Which country are you in? Don't you have sex education at your school?
You hold a dangerous weapon in your hands and you want to wave it a round without the safety on...
Which country are you in? Don't you have sex education at your school?