so i been using condoms with this girl i see .. im sure she doesnt have aids ... but im just being safe cause i dont want her getting pregnant. should i do the pull out method? i dunno what to do.. if i keep using condoms is that offending to her as in saying i think shes got diseases?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
when to stop using condoms?
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Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Ironically, your name is "chance." 
Is she on birth control?
Is she on birth control?
Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
That's just safety, common sense, and intelligence, and should never be considered offensive.
Make sure she's actually on birth control if you decide to go at it bareback.
Make sure she's actually on birth control if you decide to go at it bareback.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
you know, there are other things to catch besides aids... like children... and hepatitis and etc....
so as long as you dont want to catch any of it.... you should always wrap it up.
so as long as you dont want to catch any of it.... you should always wrap it up.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
There's an extremely low chance she has aids, so the main things you need to worry about are more common STDs like hepatitus and, of course, pregnancy.
Make sure she's on a reliable form of birth control, and that you know her well enough and trust her enough to know she doesn't have an STD.
Make sure she's on a reliable form of birth control, and that you know her well enough and trust her enough to know she doesn't have an STD.
killahpl
Don Juan
Sorry, but it's beyond me how anyone can ask a question like this in the 21st century.chance- said:
I mean, I wouldn't put it in a girl's vag without a condom on even if she presented me with a stack documents from a medical commitee certifying that she was free from any diseases...
killahpl
Don Juan
That's not the point. Feel free to stop using condoms whenever you trust this girl enough to be sure that she's telling the truth when she says that she took the pill, regardless of whether she is your gf at that point or not.chance- said:
The point I'm trying to make is, condom + birth control pills = always safer than one without the other. I just don't want a kid , y'know? :rockon:
condoms also would protect her from your own diseases
explain that to her if the conversation comes up. birth control pills are not 100% too, so to be safe, even if she is on birth control to still use condoms
in short my answer is never
explain that to her if the conversation comes up. birth control pills are not 100% too, so to be safe, even if she is on birth control to still use condoms
in short my answer is never
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You can stop using condoms when you want to have kids.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
How do you ever trust a woman not to lie and get knocked up,married by you?
This is kind og a dumb question. The answer is: Only when you are ready to have a child AND when SHE is ready to have a child AND when you both have been tested AND you are ready to deal with any consequences that could result from unprotected sex, including children and any STD.
CarlitosWay
Master Don Juan
Not saying it will happen to you but...some guys have knocked up chics who were even on birth control. Some of us get pre-mature ejaculation and you're gambling with the pull out method. Also what if she wants to have a kid and decides to not take her pills or encourage you to bust inside of her. ffs think man. this is your future you're gambling with!!!!!!chance- said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
One of the dumbest questions on here.
You hold a dangerous weapon in your hands and you want to wave it a round without the safety on...
Which country are you in? Don't you have sex education at your school?
You hold a dangerous weapon in your hands and you want to wave it a round without the safety on...
Which country are you in? Don't you have sex education at your school?