Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When to move in for the kill

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I have a problem that i think i tease some women too much until they get annoyed or angry with me. Like for example i was at a party and a girl wanted to me to go into the room and "swap clothes" with her because she thought my jumper was cool and i thought nah im gonna tease her a little more and say no when she was coming onto me i kept avoiding her advances. Is it possible to tease too much and if so when should you move in for the kill?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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wildchild

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issues no i like to be hard to get and also i was happy because i rejected her.
 

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a nice guy enjoys teasing and being ****y and funny all the time. have a nice day nice guy.
 

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you prolly came off as rejecting her rather then teasing her. when you just say "no" how the hell does she know wut that means?

i woulda said "haha, its gonna take you a little more then that to get my in that room with you. geez i think your trying to take advantage of a drunk guy"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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or phrase it "you dont want to seem like your taking advantage of a drunk guy do you? so try a lil harder and maby you'll get lucky"
 

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when to move in for the kill .......

" .............. at the first scent of blood "


I would have led her by the hand to this room. Locked the door behind me, and told her to go first. If she was still willing I would have intently watched her undress without a word. If she was naked at this stage of the game you can damn well bet she didnt want to be naked alone..................
 

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you say u tease her, but u just said no to her advances.
that's not teasing.

IF u really wanted to tease, you wouldve made her work for it. instead of saying no
 

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I didnt mean i just said "no" i said things like very funny i know what your plan is. In a half serious tone. Then she just kept on coming and coming and coming like maybe rubbing herself up against me and then her friend would try the same but by this point i was too pissed to stand and she ****ed off.
 

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problem solved....don't expect your game to work when you're too drunk to stand
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Donald Kaufman

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What's a jumper? Where I live it something a 6 year old girl wears.

Are you a 6 year old girl? I think this site might be inappropriate for you and you should hold off on the drinking till you're 9.

Maybe it's a cultural thing.

Do most 6 year old girls drink till they pass out in your culture?
:eek:
 

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Here's the key that you missed:

As a guy, when a girl propositions you like that, you are NOT in any position to decline.

I mean, okay, hot girl + suggestion to swap clothes + isolation = fun times.

Hot girl + suggestion to swap clothes + rejecting her = one very bitter woman

Women generally don't blatantly hit on men like that unless they are almost SURE that you'll accept. When you didn't accept, it pissed her off and turned her off.

At that point you were not playing hard to get, you were playing "homosexual". She basically offered you some action and you turned her down.

Learn from the mistake.
 

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lol Donald its just like a top you put over your t shirt:p
 

wildchild

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lol Donald its just like a top you put over your t shirt:p thanks luscious
 
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