"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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When to let guard down

becker

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Hey guys, this has always been an area of interest for me. Basically, you lay on the C+F, and bust on her, which is supposed to help the rapport and IL.

However, the problem comes when it starts to become a little too much of a good thing, meaning that when the girl starts to ask you serious questions and you're still not giving her a straight answer and she gets a little irritated.

Do you guys back off the sarcasm and joking around when this happens, or do you just continue as you were doing before?

I've been very tempted to back off because it just doesn't seem appropriate sometimes when there is a somewhat serious tone and you're just being a moron about it.

What do you all think? Is the whole serious tone think just another shyt test?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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WaterTiger

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If she asks a serious question, give her a serious answer. If you are constantly joking and busting her chops, she'll think that you're a boring looser who CAN'T carry on an adult conversation.

When she starts asking serious questions, that means you've captured her interest...now you can show her you are brilliant as well as funny.:D
 

jseib

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I recently had a simular problem with my "mystery building" game .. Try to look at what she wants to know and come up with an answer that gives her a taste of what she wants to know... Like if she wants to meet your friends let her meet one or 2.. If she wants to know about your job give her a few details then find an excuse to change topics


All depends on how you want to play it I suppose.. If the girl is overly inquisitive it's like a spoiled child demanding to know what theyre gettting for christmas in November and she'll throw tempertantrums to get what she wants.. So I guess it depends on the girl.. Some people love a good mystery some want to jump to the end of the book.
 

Walk this Way

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BE NORMAL if she's asking serious questions. A mistake I used to make was that I'd constantly talk about stupid things like sex, or pretend I was ghetto, or just overall gross her out, and it made her feel great at first to see someone a little fun and unpredictable, but towards the end it was just so dumb, it wasn't me and she just gave up on me because it turned her off that I was an *******. Everything needs to be done in moderation.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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