Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When to let guard down

becker

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Hey guys, this has always been an area of interest for me. Basically, you lay on the C+F, and bust on her, which is supposed to help the rapport and IL.

However, the problem comes when it starts to become a little too much of a good thing, meaning that when the girl starts to ask you serious questions and you're still not giving her a straight answer and she gets a little irritated.

Do you guys back off the sarcasm and joking around when this happens, or do you just continue as you were doing before?

I've been very tempted to back off because it just doesn't seem appropriate sometimes when there is a somewhat serious tone and you're just being a moron about it.

What do you all think? Is the whole serious tone think just another shyt test?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If she asks a serious question, give her a serious answer. If you are constantly joking and busting her chops, she'll think that you're a boring looser who CAN'T carry on an adult conversation.

When she starts asking serious questions, that means you've captured her interest...now you can show her you are brilliant as well as funny.:D
 

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I recently had a simular problem with my "mystery building" game .. Try to look at what she wants to know and come up with an answer that gives her a taste of what she wants to know... Like if she wants to meet your friends let her meet one or 2.. If she wants to know about your job give her a few details then find an excuse to change topics


All depends on how you want to play it I suppose.. If the girl is overly inquisitive it's like a spoiled child demanding to know what theyre gettting for christmas in November and she'll throw tempertantrums to get what she wants.. So I guess it depends on the girl.. Some people love a good mystery some want to jump to the end of the book.
 

Walk this Way

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BE NORMAL if she's asking serious questions. A mistake I used to make was that I'd constantly talk about stupid things like sex, or pretend I was ghetto, or just overall gross her out, and it made her feel great at first to see someone a little fun and unpredictable, but towards the end it was just so dumb, it wasn't me and she just gave up on me because it turned her off that I was an *******. Everything needs to be done in moderation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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