so i asked the girl if she wanted to hang out tmr..... and she was like ill let u know tmr..... and she never did lol. freeze out or call her out on it? I have to assume she is somewhat interested since we made out for 2 hrs 2 days ago
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
when to freeze a girl out... i want to build more interest thru text
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Johnnyventana
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I would seriously wait until she contacts you. Set the precedent early that you are not up for shyte! You asked her out, she said she'd let you know, and then she didn't.
Let's be honest. How hard would it have been to send you a quick text saying, sorry, can't today. It would have taken her all of 10 seconds.
Don't chase. You should be pissed. She wasted your time. You could have made other plans. There is no excuse.
If you MUST contact her. Wait a few days and say, "Hey, What the heck? You never got back to me. All I want to know now is how are you going to make this up to me? I think making me dinner is a good start."
Let's be honest. How hard would it have been to send you a quick text saying, sorry, can't today. It would have taken her all of 10 seconds.
Don't chase. You should be pissed. She wasted your time. You could have made other plans. There is no excuse.
If you MUST contact her. Wait a few days and say, "Hey, What the heck? You never got back to me. All I want to know now is how are you going to make this up to me? I think making me dinner is a good start."
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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This must be a f*cking joke topic.cguy2004 said:
What the f*ck?
Build text through attraction? Are you SERIOUS?
You think that the best way to build attraction is through TEXT? By punching little plastic buttons on an overpriced piece of plastic?
What about the other 93% of communication, the nonverbals?
What happened to being a MAN and calling her? What happened to realizing that people have LIVES, and understanding that sh*t happens?
And another thing, you claim that you "don't play games" and "can do much better". If you didn't really "play games", you wouldn't be asking if ignoring her for a week would build attraction. The very subtext of saying "I don't play games" is that you play games!
My advice? Call her. Don't be a little boy and be upset that she didn't call you. No need to play games.