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Master Don Juan
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once you have kissed and made out. how long should i wait to contact her again?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Oh yeah.. can anyone say inner-game? :woo:break yourself said:There are no rules if you are confident and not needy. These sorts of rules are really just to keep over-eager men from destroying themselves. Contact her when you want to, but be a man. Women like fearless leaders, not men who choose an arbitrary time period because they are afraid the woman won't like them. Give her an alpha attitude -- you expect a positive outcome -- act like this, and a positive outcome will occur.
However, have a reason for for contacting her. Don't just call / text her and say "hi." Set up a date, or ask her how a specific event went, etc... anything that gives you a purpose for the contact.