"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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when to contact her after make out

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If it was after a first date..

See if she contacts you first. If not, then wait a day or so and try to get another date lined up.

We need more context though - can you tell us the details?
 

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Wait 7 days for her to contact and then write if she doesn't.
 

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There are no rules if you are confident and not needy. These sorts of rules are really just to keep over-eager men from destroying themselves. Contact her when you want to, but be a man. Women like fearless leaders, not men who choose an arbitrary time period because they are afraid the woman won't like them. Give her an alpha attitude -- you expect a positive outcome -- act like this, and a positive outcome will occur.

However, have a reason for for contacting her. Don't just call / text her and say "hi." Set up a date, or ask her how a specific event went, etc... anything that gives you a purpose for the contact.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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break yourself said:
There are no rules if you are confident and not needy. These sorts of rules are really just to keep over-eager men from destroying themselves. Contact her when you want to, but be a man. Women like fearless leaders, not men who choose an arbitrary time period because they are afraid the woman won't like them. Give her an alpha attitude -- you expect a positive outcome -- act like this, and a positive outcome will occur.

However, have a reason for for contacting her. Don't just call / text her and say "hi." Set up a date, or ask her how a specific event went, etc... anything that gives you a purpose for the contact.
Oh yeah.. can anyone say inner-game? :woo:
 

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however long it takes you to live some life, accomplish some things, it make it inconsequential how the call goes.
 
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