I've been on 4 dates with a girl and she seems really interested .. we hold hands and kiss and all of that. So far i've seen her like once every 10 days or so and text once every 3 days or so. SHe never really initiates. What do you think is the best way to play this as far as seeing her, calling and texting. I think she has a lot of potential
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
WHen to call or text?
- Thread starter Dman101
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Been on four dates and your asking when you should be calling her? I think you're asking the wrong question. IMO you should be moving on to sex with her.
Be careful not to be too lovey dovey early on. There has to be progress both on an emotional level and physical level and if the emotional level gets too far ahead before the physical, you probably won't get to hit it but rather get hit with the LJBF speech.Dman101 said:I've been on 4 dates with a girl and she seems really interested .. we hold hands and kiss and all of that
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
she's interested, the dates are going well, they're kissing... he's supposed to next her if she doesn't send him a text? you guys are crazy sometimesJaxon said:If she's never initiated then you should hold back until she does. Test for interest and take the power away from her--let her initiate next time. If she doesn't, move along.
jesusrules
Senior Don Juan
she likes you it sounds like. Just keep up the good work buddy.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
Action Jaxon basically said the same thing to me in my thread. I don't see the point of moving on just because the girls isn't super high interest.
IT feels pretty high when I'm with her. Part of me is saying that its inevitable that imma be with her from the high interest she shows and she seems like a really quality women, but then another part of me is doubting things since deep down I have insecurities that im trying to hide.. plus ive only been seeing her less than once a week 4 times so far . I'm still gonna chill with other girls for now but I want to make this work
Lord Shinra
Senior Don Juan
Keep occupied and you wont think about it so much. Do some hobbies or something, and when you feel like its time to call her call her.
Make sure you dont just dissappear though.
Make sure you dont just dissappear though.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.