"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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when to call if not enough comfort was built

john_1234

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while waiting in line for food today during noon time, i got this girl's #. since i was on a time limit, we only chatted for a mere minute or two while waiting in line which is definitely not enough time to establish some comfort. most likely, this one will be a flake. for situations like this (where you didn't build enough comfort), when would you call her? same day? next day? maybe a witty text message? by the way, i did a search but couldn't find anything.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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duttylove

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personally i dont beileve in the wait 2 days thing. i call when i want. might be same day might be 1 week. just make the call brief to set up a date! building comfort on the phone usually works against you. call her up say somethign around the lines of. it was nice chattin to you yesterday you seem like an interesting person, shame i was in a hurry. we should meet up on such n such at such time and continue you are conversation. dont use them exact words i dont know ur personality but u know where im goin with it
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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duttylove said:
personally i dont beileve in the wait 2 days thing. i call when i want. might be same day might be 1 week. just make the call brief to set up a date! building comfort on the phone usually works against you. call her up say somethign around the lines of. it was nice chattin to you yesterday you seem like an interesting person, shame i was in a hurry. we should meet up on such n such at such time and continue you are conversation. dont use them exact words i dont know ur personality but u know where im goin with it

I'd say that's some pretty solid advice.

In this kind of situation, I wouldn't wait more than 2 days, before calling. You didn't get a chance to connect with her so the longer time goes by, the higher your chances are that she'll flake on you..... Not that it should matter. You got the digits, so you're a step further in the right direction. If she does flake, who cares?

good luck
 
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