"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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when to call if not enough comfort was built

john_1234

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while waiting in line for food today during noon time, i got this girl's #. since i was on a time limit, we only chatted for a mere minute or two while waiting in line which is definitely not enough time to establish some comfort. most likely, this one will be a flake. for situations like this (where you didn't build enough comfort), when would you call her? same day? next day? maybe a witty text message? by the way, i did a search but couldn't find anything.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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duttylove

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personally i dont beileve in the wait 2 days thing. i call when i want. might be same day might be 1 week. just make the call brief to set up a date! building comfort on the phone usually works against you. call her up say somethign around the lines of. it was nice chattin to you yesterday you seem like an interesting person, shame i was in a hurry. we should meet up on such n such at such time and continue you are conversation. dont use them exact words i dont know ur personality but u know where im goin with it
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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duttylove said:
personally i dont beileve in the wait 2 days thing. i call when i want. might be same day might be 1 week. just make the call brief to set up a date! building comfort on the phone usually works against you. call her up say somethign around the lines of. it was nice chattin to you yesterday you seem like an interesting person, shame i was in a hurry. we should meet up on such n such at such time and continue you are conversation. dont use them exact words i dont know ur personality but u know where im goin with it

I'd say that's some pretty solid advice.

In this kind of situation, I wouldn't wait more than 2 days, before calling. You didn't get a chance to connect with her so the longer time goes by, the higher your chances are that she'll flake on you..... Not that it should matter. You got the digits, so you're a step further in the right direction. If she does flake, who cares?

good luck
 
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