When they come back & escalation

[Murk]

Ok no not a girlfriend, just a girl you had been seeing.

This Australian went back home for over a month and leading up to that we had been on a few dates, kissed on the first but seem to have friend zoned each other and had trouble escalating, she even said to me "you would be a really good friend". Homie weren't tryna play that so I just cut contact (was supposed to take her to the airport but just ghosted weeks before).

Now she's been messaging me this week that shes back this weekend and asking me for some cool spots to hit up in Prague as she's going for a hen do and I have been recently (plus casual reasons to text and asking me advice on stuff).

Anyway, I did like her, we did have something, and she has been doing all the initiation for the longest so I'm wondering how I can reengage her but not as a friend only as a love interest. Also I'm wondering if she secretly just wants a ride from the airport on Friday (not gonna happen).

I actually have a GF but we have both agreed the whole thing has been going south for months (we both tried to break up over Xmas but ended up going out NYE with a group of our friends and had a good time). I see this Australian as my monkey branch, I do not have time for dating this early in the new year due to work and life commitments.

 

[RangerMIke]

Do you live near her? If so, make a date and see what happens.

In my experience you have a less than 50-50 shot if you are already 'friends'... it is too hard to change that dynamic. The only way you can REALLY pull it off is to have time away from a chick, like MONTHS, with no contact... then give it a shot. And even then, you REALLY have to want this, which means you will be putting out an epic-ally needy vibe which will destroy you.

 

[Chev.Chelios]

"getting placed in the friend zoned is the man's choice"

 

[jaymbrs]

You gotta break through that friend barrier. Def go out with the intention of getting intoxicated together and then make a move. If successful, you’ll officially have an opportunity for her to look at yalls situation from a non friend perspective.

 

[marmel75]

Alcohol and escalation is your best chance.

 

[Glassguy]

Alcohol and escalation is your best chance.

And then smash and start withdrawing to get her chasing.

 

[wifehunter]

yawn, what was this thread about again?