When there is only one plate left

[CyrusTheGreat]

What do you plate spinners do when all your plates fall off but one, and you aren't looking for a serious relationship/LTR? Add to this that you're busy so cultivating new plates isn't feasible. Would you drop the only one remaining in order to avoid oneitis/plate turning to LTR or would you keep her as long as she stays?

 

[Dr.Suave]

Just keep yourself/her in check. You lead, she follows. Comply or bye.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You would treat her the same as you have been

 

[EyeBRollin]

Get some more plates

 

[manfrombelow]

Plates are MEANT to fall off, sooner or later, it's just a matter of time. Your job is to take it as what it is, and spin more plates.

 

[SW15]

you're busy so cultivating new plates isn't feasible.

You make time to spin more plates.

 

[manfrombelow]

Add to this that you're busy so cultivating new plates isn't feasible.

If you're "that" busy that maybe plates are not for you at least not until you're less busy.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Make sure it's clean before eating off of it.

 

[Gamisch]

What do you plate spinners do when all your plates fall off but one, and you aren't looking for a serious relationship/LTR? Add to this that you're busy so cultivating new plates isn't feasible. Would you drop the only one remaining in order to avoid oneitis/plate turning to LTR or would you keep her as long as she stays?

Good luck avoiding oneites with this mindset. Going back to zero is pointless of you already know you'll go back to one. Just keep your antennas up for new women and in the meantime feck this one.

Never go into a LTR out of desperation. Worst thing that can happen is you getting invested in a woman you dont really want. There are always moments to meet new women if you get outside enough.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Get new ones. If you want a gf, just say you want a gf.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

Good luck avoiding oneites with this mindset. Going back to zero is pointless of you already know you'll go back to one. Just keep your antennas up for new women and in the meantime feck this one.

Never go into a LTR out of desperation. Worst thing that can happen is you getting invested in a woman you dont really want. There are always moments to meet new women if you get outside enough.

What's wrong with my mindset? I'm actually fine not having any women at all.

Get new ones. If you want a gf, just say you want a gf.

I don't want a gf for a forseeable future. I'm actually asking this question to make sure I don't end up with a gf.

 

[HaleyBaron]

The answer is self resolving. Just don't treat anyone like a gf. They're fwbs. And even the friend part is just for show. Women don't make good friends for men.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

Just keep yourself/her in check. You lead, she follows. Comply or bye.

The thing is when there is only one chick that a man has access to he usually ends up developing feeling for that chick. This has happened to me before. So, I'm unsure as whether keeping one plate is reasonable. As an old wise man once said, when you have one plate, she is not your plate, she is your gf.

 

[HaleyBaron]

The thing is when there is only one chick that a man has access to he usually ends up developing feeling for that chick. This has happened to me before. So, I'm unsure as whether keeping one plate is reasonable. As an old wise man once said, when you have one plate, she is not your plate, she is your gf.

That old man sounds dumb, no offense.

 

[CyrusTheGreat]

That old man sounds dumb, no offense.

Have you had a plate that you had weekly secs with monogamously for an extended period of time, and you didn't develop feelings for?

 

[HaleyBaron]

Have you had a plate that you had weekly secs with monogamously for an extended period of time, and you didn't develop feelings for?

I have had a plate like that, and yes, they creep up, but then I remembered I was getting complacent and then smashed a girl that weekend. Men who get gfs are usually just settling.

 

[2Rocky]

1)Don't give her all your free time. Reserve some time to yourself and recharge. See your remaining plate 1x a week
2) When you feel recharged use that time to prospect for new talent. It could be as simple as 20 minutes morning and night doing swipe apps.
3) Feed your social circles. Check in with the folks you haven't seen since before the holidays. Rekindle some friendships with a quick text or IM from social media.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Social gaming is very important. I already have three women pecking at my ankles for a hookup. When you stop fishing, nothing will bite.

 

[Gamisch]

The thing is when there is only one chick that a man has access to he usually ends up developing feeling for that chick. This has happened to me before. So, I'm unsure as whether keeping one plate is reasonable. As an old wise man once said, when you have one plate, she is not your plate, she is your gf.

You've answered your own question to me better than I could've said it...