"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When the girl lives 1h away

martoslo

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I got a number after being approached by a hb7-8 on saturday, I am planning to call later today to plan the 1.5th date sort of.

The problem is she may be living a little less than an hours drive away (or in town, I dont know yet), so driving to get her would seem a bit desparate, how do you best handle such a situation?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Black_Italian

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Lol what the problem i always tell girls to come to me if they live 5 min or 5 hours away. If they dont want to come i dont go out with them simple. They almost always come out.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TxCowboy

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the problem with that is that if it does go somewhere, and yall start liking each other, transportation costs may become a major factor and with gas prices the way they are ....

it would be easier just to find someone else thats more local ... I did the same thing with the ex and hated it just because it became too much of a hassle ...

GL !
 

Austizzle

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
Lol what the problem i always tell girls to come to me if they live 5 min or 5 hours away. If they dont want to come i dont go out with them simple. They almost always come out.
This is coming from the guy who posted that ninja thread. :rolleyes:
 

Kaparski

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Get a damn car already!

Money shouldnt be an issue either, and this "**** her if u need to travel " is stupid...... why not pay 10 to get laid than going around and finding one (not to mention the money used use at the club or wherever). This is the intellect of 4 year olds. The **** the broad concept applies to other situations, not ones which involve ur lack of laziness or cheapiness.

Enjoy it while it lasts
 

TxCowboy

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Originally posted by Kaparski
Get a damn car already!

Money shouldnt be an issue either, and this "**** her if u need to travel " is stupid...... why not pay 10 to get laid than going around and finding one (not to mention the money used use at the club or wherever). This is the intellect of 4 year olds. The **** the broad concept applies to other situations, not ones which involve ur lack of laziness or cheapiness.

Enjoy it while it lasts
Its common sense foo! Ur gonna start paying a lot more than $10 bucks - try more like 25+ after about 2 or 3 trips. Plus if it goes anywhere ... its another LDR , which gets to be a burden on both parties after a while ....

Go get the lay the first time, but after that, start pimping more around your local area ....
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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If her interest level is high enough, she could always come to your neck of the woods (given you do something that merits the drive).

I'm seeing one women who's about a hour away (next state over) and comes to my neck of the woods almost weekly. Given there's more to do on my side of the fence but again, if her IL is high anough, there's no telling how far they'd drive.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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