"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When should I stop initiating dates?

budisudaryo

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What should I do if after five dates or so a girl hasn't initiated any date? But she's always willing to go on a date with me, she never refuses or flakes. A case of medium interest or simply a girl who expects a guy to initiates? Thanks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Alex DeLarge

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If she had a good time on the date, then keep initiating. If she calls or texts you saying she misses you, that's code for "When are you gonna take me out again?". Good luck my man.
 

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So far, sounds like everything is going smooth. As the man, you are expected to initiate everything, until you two have advanced further. With that said, I have a few questions for you.

What are you looking for with this one? What type of relationship are you looking for with her?

How far have you advanced physically? Are you just taking her out on date after date, yet you haven't made a move? If that's the case, you might already be an "option" for her, and not much more.
 

budisudaryo

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Gangster Of Love said:
So far, sounds like everything is going smooth. As the man, you are expected to initiate everything, until you two have advanced further. With that said, I have a few questions for you.

What are you looking for with this one? What type of relationship are you looking for with her?

How far have you advanced physically? Are you just taking her out on date after date, yet you haven't made a move? If that's the case, you might already be an "option" for her, and not much more.
I'm looking for an LTR. Physically we haven't done anything and don't plan to because we both are religious persons (muslim). Yeah I know this is a rarity in this forum.
 

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budisudaryo said:
I'm looking for an LTR. Physically we haven't done anything and don't plan to because we both are religious persons (muslim). Yeah I know this is a rarity in this forum.
So you pursuing the courting route? Are you planning on going on 1000+ dates? Each time you go on one of those platonic dates, you are cementing your platonic relationship status. Not judging, just reporting.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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budisudaryo

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Gangster Of Love said:
So you pursuing the courting route? Are you planning on going on 1000+ dates? Each time you go on one of those platonic dates, you are cementing your platonic relationship status. Not judging, just reporting.
well then how do you explain those happy married couples that hadn't had sex until they're married?
 

PrettyBoyAJ

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They spend time with eachother in general. Not just going on dates. You can invite a girl to the crib without trying to have sex *cringe*
 

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budisudaryo said:
well then how do you explain those happy married couples that hadn't had sex until they're married?
the same ones that got divorced later or has been having affairs?
 

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After your one thousand first date ask her father permission to marry her, if denied next her ass.
 

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You can't find the right answer from us, we're not her or even know her.
On the other hand, whats the longest you've ever been without going on a date with her? Whatever period that is, double it next time, and see what happens. Just for sake of experimenting. Also, try contacting her less for the next few days.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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