"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When should I stop initiating dates?

budisudaryo

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What should I do if after five dates or so a girl hasn't initiated any date? But she's always willing to go on a date with me, she never refuses or flakes. A case of medium interest or simply a girl who expects a guy to initiates? Thanks.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alex DeLarge

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If she had a good time on the date, then keep initiating. If she calls or texts you saying she misses you, that's code for "When are you gonna take me out again?". Good luck my man.
 

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So far, sounds like everything is going smooth. As the man, you are expected to initiate everything, until you two have advanced further. With that said, I have a few questions for you.

What are you looking for with this one? What type of relationship are you looking for with her?

How far have you advanced physically? Are you just taking her out on date after date, yet you haven't made a move? If that's the case, you might already be an "option" for her, and not much more.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
So far, sounds like everything is going smooth. As the man, you are expected to initiate everything, until you two have advanced further. With that said, I have a few questions for you.

What are you looking for with this one? What type of relationship are you looking for with her?

How far have you advanced physically? Are you just taking her out on date after date, yet you haven't made a move? If that's the case, you might already be an "option" for her, and not much more.
I'm looking for an LTR. Physically we haven't done anything and don't plan to because we both are religious persons (muslim). Yeah I know this is a rarity in this forum.
 

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budisudaryo said:
I'm looking for an LTR. Physically we haven't done anything and don't plan to because we both are religious persons (muslim). Yeah I know this is a rarity in this forum.
So you pursuing the courting route? Are you planning on going on 1000+ dates? Each time you go on one of those platonic dates, you are cementing your platonic relationship status. Not judging, just reporting.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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budisudaryo

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Gangster Of Love said:
So you pursuing the courting route? Are you planning on going on 1000+ dates? Each time you go on one of those platonic dates, you are cementing your platonic relationship status. Not judging, just reporting.
well then how do you explain those happy married couples that hadn't had sex until they're married?
 

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They spend time with eachother in general. Not just going on dates. You can invite a girl to the crib without trying to have sex *cringe*
 

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budisudaryo said:
well then how do you explain those happy married couples that hadn't had sex until they're married?
the same ones that got divorced later or has been having affairs?
 

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After your one thousand first date ask her father permission to marry her, if denied next her ass.
 

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You can't find the right answer from us, we're not her or even know her.
On the other hand, whats the longest you've ever been without going on a date with her? Whatever period that is, double it next time, and see what happens. Just for sake of experimenting. Also, try contacting her less for the next few days.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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