I've had dinner, been to several parties, and had a date with her Monday. My next move is to go for a kiss, so should I make plans next week to make her think I'm busy on the weekends, or take a risk and go for the weekend or Friday night
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
When should I ask this girl out
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Upside
Senior Don Juan
Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her.
roman81
Don Juan
Upside said:
TRUE THAT.
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perseverance
Guest
Woah, woah, woah!
You have been out with this girl multiple times and yet you have not escalated? Why not? If this girl has been out to dinner with, has been at multiple parties with you and has had a date with you, she's interested. You need to start escalating, pronto, or she'll think you're not interested and she'll move on to someone else.
You need to go for it, you need to slay that wicked beast and make sure she can't ignore your techno.
You have been out with this girl multiple times and yet you have not escalated? Why not? If this girl has been out to dinner with, has been at multiple parties with you and has had a date with you, she's interested. You need to start escalating, pronto, or she'll think you're not interested and she'll move on to someone else.
You need to go for it, you need to slay that wicked beast and make sure she can't ignore your techno.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
K I finally asked her out, but it didn't go as well.
Me:So what are you doing this day
Her: I'm doing .........
Me: well I was going to ask you to join me for .......
Her: Ya, I might be able to make it but I'm really busy that day
Me: well if youre busy than nvm
Her: maybe but what time
Me: around 8 at night but if you can't make it than you owe me
Her: hmmm really how so lol
Me: cause your always so busy and we need to go ..........
Her: with me and I know I'm always busy
Me: u better and yes we need to sometime
Her: I would love to and then she brings up another convo irrelevant to this
Me:So what are you doing this day
Her: I'm doing .........
Me: well I was going to ask you to join me for .......
Her: Ya, I might be able to make it but I'm really busy that day
Me: well if youre busy than nvm
Her: maybe but what time
Me: around 8 at night but if you can't make it than you owe me
Her: hmmm really how so lol
Me: cause your always so busy and we need to go ..........
Her: with me and I know I'm always busy
Me: u better and yes we need to sometime
Her: I would love to and then she brings up another convo irrelevant to this
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perseverance
Guest
It doesn't sound like she is interested from that exchange.
First, I didn't ask her on a date, I asked her to drop by someplace I can't tell on here. She told me what she was doing in the convo and i know it's mandatory for her. I kind of edited the convo because I'm paranoid she'll randomly stumble upon this, so this is not the exact convo. I'm going to go cold on her. Also, so ignore any texts she sends me till Wednesday. Also were going somewhere in two weeks where I'm pretty sure sex is guaranteed.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.