I've had dinner, been to several parties, and had a date with her Monday. My next move is to go for a kiss, so should I make plans next week to make her think I'm busy on the weekends, or take a risk and go for the weekend or Friday night
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When should I ask this girl out
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
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Upside said:
TRUE THAT.
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Woah, woah, woah!
You have been out with this girl multiple times and yet you have not escalated? Why not? If this girl has been out to dinner with, has been at multiple parties with you and has had a date with you, she's interested. You need to start escalating, pronto, or she'll think you're not interested and she'll move on to someone else.
You need to go for it, you need to slay that wicked beast and make sure she can't ignore your techno.
You have been out with this girl multiple times and yet you have not escalated? Why not? If this girl has been out to dinner with, has been at multiple parties with you and has had a date with you, she's interested. You need to start escalating, pronto, or she'll think you're not interested and she'll move on to someone else.
You need to go for it, you need to slay that wicked beast and make sure she can't ignore your techno.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
K I finally asked her out, but it didn't go as well.
Me:So what are you doing this day
Her: I'm doing .........
Me: well I was going to ask you to join me for .......
Her: Ya, I might be able to make it but I'm really busy that day
Me: well if youre busy than nvm
Her: maybe but what time
Me: around 8 at night but if you can't make it than you owe me
Her: hmmm really how so lol
Me: cause your always so busy and we need to go ..........
Her: with me and I know I'm always busy
Me: u better and yes we need to sometime
Her: I would love to and then she brings up another convo irrelevant to this
Me:So what are you doing this day
Her: I'm doing .........
Me: well I was going to ask you to join me for .......
Her: Ya, I might be able to make it but I'm really busy that day
Me: well if youre busy than nvm
Her: maybe but what time
Me: around 8 at night but if you can't make it than you owe me
Her: hmmm really how so lol
Me: cause your always so busy and we need to go ..........
Her: with me and I know I'm always busy
Me: u better and yes we need to sometime
Her: I would love to and then she brings up another convo irrelevant to this
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It doesn't sound like she is interested from that exchange.
First, I didn't ask her on a date, I asked her to drop by someplace I can't tell on here. She told me what she was doing in the convo and i know it's mandatory for her. I kind of edited the convo because I'm paranoid she'll randomly stumble upon this, so this is not the exact convo. I'm going to go cold on her. Also, so ignore any texts she sends me till Wednesday. Also were going somewhere in two weeks where I'm pretty sure sex is guaranteed.
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