I've had dinner, been to several parties, and had a date with her Monday. My next move is to go for a kiss, so should I make plans next week to make her think I'm busy on the weekends, or take a risk and go for the weekend or Friday night
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When should I ask this girl out
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Upside
Senior Don Juan
Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her. Mount her.
roman81
Don Juan
Upside said:
TRUE THAT.
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perseverance
Guest
Woah, woah, woah!
You have been out with this girl multiple times and yet you have not escalated? Why not? If this girl has been out to dinner with, has been at multiple parties with you and has had a date with you, she's interested. You need to start escalating, pronto, or she'll think you're not interested and she'll move on to someone else.
You need to go for it, you need to slay that wicked beast and make sure she can't ignore your techno.
You have been out with this girl multiple times and yet you have not escalated? Why not? If this girl has been out to dinner with, has been at multiple parties with you and has had a date with you, she's interested. You need to start escalating, pronto, or she'll think you're not interested and she'll move on to someone else.
You need to go for it, you need to slay that wicked beast and make sure she can't ignore your techno.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
K I finally asked her out, but it didn't go as well.
Me:So what are you doing this day
Her: I'm doing .........
Me: well I was going to ask you to join me for .......
Her: Ya, I might be able to make it but I'm really busy that day
Me: well if youre busy than nvm
Her: maybe but what time
Me: around 8 at night but if you can't make it than you owe me
Her: hmmm really how so lol
Me: cause your always so busy and we need to go ..........
Her: with me and I know I'm always busy
Me: u better and yes we need to sometime
Her: I would love to and then she brings up another convo irrelevant to this
Me:So what are you doing this day
Her: I'm doing .........
Me: well I was going to ask you to join me for .......
Her: Ya, I might be able to make it but I'm really busy that day
Me: well if youre busy than nvm
Her: maybe but what time
Me: around 8 at night but if you can't make it than you owe me
Her: hmmm really how so lol
Me: cause your always so busy and we need to go ..........
Her: with me and I know I'm always busy
Me: u better and yes we need to sometime
Her: I would love to and then she brings up another convo irrelevant to this
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perseverance
Guest
It doesn't sound like she is interested from that exchange.
First, I didn't ask her on a date, I asked her to drop by someplace I can't tell on here. She told me what she was doing in the convo and i know it's mandatory for her. I kind of edited the convo because I'm paranoid she'll randomly stumble upon this, so this is not the exact convo. I'm going to go cold on her. Also, so ignore any texts she sends me till Wednesday. Also were going somewhere in two weeks where I'm pretty sure sex is guaranteed.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.