When Should A Man Stop Going To Nightclubs?

[jglide123]

Had this discussion with a few friends earlier. At what age should a man stop going to clubs? Interested in you guys' opinions....

 

[J Roc]

When he can no longer pickup women..(or men ) there...

 

[Mike32ct]

There is no specific age cutoff. It depends on several factors.

Do you still like clubs? If you don't like them anymore, don't bother.

Can you still do well there with the ladies? If you can still get grinds, or makeouts, or even pulls, and want to continue, fine. If you can't get ANY play anymore, but still enjoy the music every so often, go once in a while just for entertainment or don't go at all.

How old do you look? (An older guy who looks younger can get away with it longer.)

I started the game late. At 28, I was hitting the clubs twice per week. At 36, I'm pretty much at the end of my clubbing days. I go maybe a few times per year, mostly when traveling.

 

[In10se]

you can stop whenever you want to stop going... if girls do not find you creepy and you enjoy the scene then by all means go...however don't be the bald 35 year old wasted guy with no game who touches random girls and gets kicked out

 

[bigneil]

At 28, I was hitting the clubs twice per week. At 36, I'm pretty much at the end of my clubbing days.

I thought that also - but I got my second wind at 37! With the right diet and exercise, aging is not a consistent fall-off, it's more like a sine curve. Since age 40 I've had 6 of my best girlfriends, and I'm only 41.5.

 

[Mike32ct]

I thought that also - but I got my second wind at 37! With the right diet and exercise, aging is not a consistent fall-off, it's more like a sine curve. Since age 40 I've had 6 of my best girlfriends, and I'm only 41.5.

Good point. I'm currently working on my "second wind." I'm working out and improving my diet. I'm also gonna buzz and then soon shave my head. I'm handsome from the front, but the bald spot in the back has grown enough in size where it's hurting my game.

I still PREFER classy bars where I can meet educated milfs, but I don't mind hitting the club once in a while.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

I'm 25 and I'm already tired of clubs. I dunno why people brag about girls grinding on them. I really used to enjoy it but not so much. Its Not much of an accomplishment. I've seen girls grind with complete rejects. Anyways..to answer the question I'd say 29-30 for night clubs. I understand alota people may be building their social confidence late so alot of people on this forum will have a different view as to what society thinks.But past 30 you will certainly stand out at a night club. Not necessarily a bad thing. I've seen some of theese guys keep social value, but it does have a negative stigma. Depends on the type of club as well. If it's the typical hip hop night club then 29 is def. Too old. If its a more classier eclectic lounge type of club then perhaps early 30's.

 

[Mike32ct]

I'm 25 and I'm already tired of clubs. I dunno why people brag about girls grinding on them. I really used to enjoy it but not so much. Its Not much of an accomplishment. I've seen girls grind with complete rejects. Anyways..to answer the question I'd say 29-30 for night clubs. I understand alota people may be building their social confidence late so alot of people on this forum will have a different view as to what society thinks.But past 30 you will certainly stand out at a night club. Not necessarily a bad thing. I've seen some of theese guys keep social value, but it does have a negative stigma. Depends on the type of club as well. If it's the typical hip hop night club then 29 is def. Too old. If its a more classier eclectic lounge type of club then perhaps early 30's.

Fair point. I mostly went to casino nightclubs which have a wider age range. Your typical downtown hip hop club will run much younger age-wise.

 

[FairShake]

I'd say stop as soon as you are the oldest guy there.

There is nothing wrong with continuing to go out after 30-ish by the way. You just need to go where people your age are. There are many bars that cater to people 30 and above.

I go out far less often than I used to but when i do it's these type of places that I go.

 

[jglide123]

I can see all perspectives here.

I'm 29, and I had somewhat of a late start with clubs (started hitting them seriously at around 26). To me, it all comes down to congruency. If your whole style and vibe are incompatible with the environment (E.g. you're the old dude in the club, you're too mature for the people/music, etc.), then it's time to find a more suitable environment, be it a club where most of the people are older, or forgoing the whole scene altogether.

 

[floydb25]

Whenever you grow tired of it, and no longer enjoy it. Most of my friends and I stopped around 23-28. It gets old, and I can't tolerate stupid, shallow people. So glad to be out of that scene, and the people associated with it. It was fun for a while, though. Playing pool, dancing with hoes, picking them up, and dating them for a week. Ha ha. Definitely gets old. Lots of options available, but no good ones. Same with the party / drinking scene in general.

I can still fit into these scenes and pick up the chicks easily, but it doesn't interest me at all. Looking for quality these days. Kind of always was; just looked for it in all the wrong places, and crowds. Skanks aren't very nice, I find. Wish they were, 'cause they definitely have the sexuality going on. Just nothing else.

 

[NewAndImproved]

double post

 

[NewAndImproved]

I was one of those guys who never really went back to his college to party, even when I was only a few months out. At 24, I can definitely say I've grown tired of the college-type bar, too. Living in L.A., there are plenty of those and I'm done with them. Too many shallow people. I've abandoned the more "hollow" parts of my game (and probably my personality) and am now looking for more interesting connections and people. For that, I prefer the small, intimate lounge or dive bar and also the classier sort of clubs here and in Vegas. Don't see myself giving up this scene for a while. It's still fun.

 

[evansblue]

I'm 25 and started getting tired of the bar/club scene about a year or so ago. The cost, the combativeness of the women, the c0ckblocks, etc. It just really wasn't worth my time anymore and became very redundant. Not to mention the hangovers that came with it. I had fun though, and gained a lot of experience.

I focus much more on day game now.

 

[zekko]

Heh, how old is Tyler Durden, 32? He seems so into it he'll probably be going into clubs when he's 80.

Personally, I'd rather plunge needles into my eyes than go into a club, but I'm old.

 

[sighsigh]

When he wants to settle down or when he's so old it looks weird.

Women in clubs are horrible quality anyways. But fine if you're looking to pump and dump.

 

[bigneil]

You stop going once you can't score there anymore. If you're in the top 10% you'll still go.

As you get older you need to keep improving to compensate by having more money, dressing better, having more knowledge, more DJ skills and by being healthier (we hope).

Assuming you weren't the best looking 20 year old on Earth, you can be more attractive by 30 or 40 if you keep improving, so you see a net increase in your women. 50 is the peak of a man's "power" on average.

Also, it used to be that bar girls were considered lower quality. Now all girls are considered lower quality so it doesn't matter. Seriously, you can't say "nice girls go here and not there" or every man would be there already (in which case they'd have to find a new locale).

 

[sambwoy]

TV and other media I think creates this notion that they are so great, but I started to figure early on that they aren't. I found they were terrible places to meet women. About 18-21 I was very insecure in my own shoes but, as other posters have already put, unless you fulfil the criteria of what's considered good looking that's the way things go in clubs anyway.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Reading this post i'm wondering what we all consider clubs. What I consider clubs is: barely any tables, the only chairs are up against the walls, a VIP area, couches, 98% floor space is dance floor, all lighting is 99% disco lights, $150+ bottles-$10+ drinks, NO FOOD BEING SERVED, music so loud you can only hear someone if they are literally screaming in your ear, cover charge, people rolling & doing coke in the rest rooms, after parties. Are we on the same page here? The whole place is geared towards drinking and dancing.

Not bars with loud music, not restaurants with loud music, not outdoors events with loud music.

Welcome to South Beach Florida

With that being said I grew out of that stage quick. I far prefer lounges and bars to clubs. Pretty much anything except a club ok? lol...All you can really do in a club is dance and spend money, and the pickup game is limited to whatever can be done in silence or totally wasted women. Because if you can get someone to actually understand a sentence (if they even could) they would be so annoyed at you screaming in their ears for so long that whatever point you tried to make or suggest would practically be mute. Last club I went to I was around 28? My natural cutoff was that I went as long as I could bear it. Anything more casual I plan to continue going to till I die... bars, lounges, etc...

 

[bigneil]

South Beach dance clubs in Miami are honestly my least favorite place on Earth. I like pool bars, sports bars and country bars. You must be able to hear the girl to pick her up, IMO.