"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When She Wants To Know Your Age

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I have gotten the how old are you question on various occassions soon after meeting women including several I have dated.

I recently met a very attractive girl, who following the prevuious pattern, asked me the same thing after knowing her for only 30 minutes, which begs the question: Why are they so obsessed about a mans age? Is it some kind of prequalifier of whether she wants to date /fyck you?

My take on it is if she asks such a personal question early on she is at least considering the possibility and therefor it is a good IOI.

Any thoughts?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I dunno, do you look real young or old? Maybe they wanna know you're not jailbait.
 

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ok, get ready for this. From personal experience I found that when most girls ask your age, it means that they want to know your age.
 

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loll

you mean I don't have to break out the message decoder?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Are do you doing things that would make them question it?
 

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im 16, so how much do you weigh??

lol catchs them off guard
 

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What's the big deal if she asks your age? I mean it's not like she asked for your social security number. Isn't that just a basic getting-to-know-you type question?
 

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Asking a guys age is like asking for a woman's weight.:eek:
 

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It strikes me as kinda weird, too. I mean, why would someone care?

Unless there's some relevance to the conversation (e.g., talking about music from a certain era), most guys wouldn't ask you your age.

Yeah, I'd say it's an IOI/qualifier (though, as you probably know, you should be doing the qualifying).
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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just so suave said:
im 16, so how much do you weigh??

lol catchs them off guard
LOL good one!
Actually, I'm short, so when the height question comes up, that's when I
go to the weight back-up. Shuts them up every time.
 

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It's not a weird question, I like to know a girl's age too.
Are you real young or real old that you have a problem with revealing it.
 

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Age is much more important to people before they experience you than after. With 100% consistency.
 

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I've been asked this.

Usually I say things like "Old enough," which implies I'm 21+, which I am.

Or sometimes I've said "How old do you think I am?" After they say I tell them.

A few times I even told the truth right away, but not usually.

Once I even dodged the question.


As for the second question, people have almost consistently guessed older, so I don't know how to feel about that. I've gotten numbers anywhere from 23 to 28. I'm somewhat bothered since I turn 22 in about a week, but it's not a big deal.

This could be why I wasn't carded when I bought my first legal drink, and sometimes I don't get carded at all.


Sometimes I asked why, and I often get answers like "It's how you behave, how you carry yourself." I don't know what to make of that, since I don't try to be fake. I'm just me. I have sometimes said the phrase "Well, I'm/we're not getting any younger," which I suppose is an older man's saying. But, it does encompass how I feel sometimes (like, I don't have a 4 year degree yet).


Perhaps I should start lying about my age.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Abbott said:
As for the second question, people have almost consistently guessed older, so I don't know how to feel about that. I've gotten numbers anywhere from 23 to 28. I'm somewhat bothered since I turn 22 in about a week, but it's not a big deal.

Perhaps I should start lying about my age.
In my experience, even the late twenties chicks are pretty comfortable with me being 22, the same chicks are okay with my wing being 32. After an hour or two of talking, a 7 year difference does not mean that much. If there is more than 10 years between you or you are not legal, she'll notice you look old or young and be apprehensive. (unless you are 18 or 36 looking 27.)
 

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I really like this.
Im 17 so i will say im 27
and she goes "haha no really how old?"
i say "ok im 37, i just say im 27 so i dont scare young women away"
 

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Well, obviously if you are or look like you're below the age of consent, it's relevant.

The original post read like that was obviously not an issue in his case.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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