"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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When She Wants To Know Your Age

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I have gotten the how old are you question on various occassions soon after meeting women including several I have dated.

I recently met a very attractive girl, who following the prevuious pattern, asked me the same thing after knowing her for only 30 minutes, which begs the question: Why are they so obsessed about a mans age? Is it some kind of prequalifier of whether she wants to date /fyck you?

My take on it is if she asks such a personal question early on she is at least considering the possibility and therefor it is a good IOI.

Any thoughts?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I dunno, do you look real young or old? Maybe they wanna know you're not jailbait.
 

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ok, get ready for this. From personal experience I found that when most girls ask your age, it means that they want to know your age.
 

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loll

you mean I don't have to break out the message decoder?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Are do you doing things that would make them question it?
 

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im 16, so how much do you weigh??

lol catchs them off guard
 

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What's the big deal if she asks your age? I mean it's not like she asked for your social security number. Isn't that just a basic getting-to-know-you type question?
 

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Asking a guys age is like asking for a woman's weight.:eek:
 

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It strikes me as kinda weird, too. I mean, why would someone care?

Unless there's some relevance to the conversation (e.g., talking about music from a certain era), most guys wouldn't ask you your age.

Yeah, I'd say it's an IOI/qualifier (though, as you probably know, you should be doing the qualifying).
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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just so suave said:
im 16, so how much do you weigh??

lol catchs them off guard
LOL good one!
Actually, I'm short, so when the height question comes up, that's when I
go to the weight back-up. Shuts them up every time.
 

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It's not a weird question, I like to know a girl's age too.
Are you real young or real old that you have a problem with revealing it.
 

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Age is much more important to people before they experience you than after. With 100% consistency.
 

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I've been asked this.

Usually I say things like "Old enough," which implies I'm 21+, which I am.

Or sometimes I've said "How old do you think I am?" After they say I tell them.

A few times I even told the truth right away, but not usually.

Once I even dodged the question.


As for the second question, people have almost consistently guessed older, so I don't know how to feel about that. I've gotten numbers anywhere from 23 to 28. I'm somewhat bothered since I turn 22 in about a week, but it's not a big deal.

This could be why I wasn't carded when I bought my first legal drink, and sometimes I don't get carded at all.


Sometimes I asked why, and I often get answers like "It's how you behave, how you carry yourself." I don't know what to make of that, since I don't try to be fake. I'm just me. I have sometimes said the phrase "Well, I'm/we're not getting any younger," which I suppose is an older man's saying. But, it does encompass how I feel sometimes (like, I don't have a 4 year degree yet).


Perhaps I should start lying about my age.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Abbott said:
As for the second question, people have almost consistently guessed older, so I don't know how to feel about that. I've gotten numbers anywhere from 23 to 28. I'm somewhat bothered since I turn 22 in about a week, but it's not a big deal.

Perhaps I should start lying about my age.
In my experience, even the late twenties chicks are pretty comfortable with me being 22, the same chicks are okay with my wing being 32. After an hour or two of talking, a 7 year difference does not mean that much. If there is more than 10 years between you or you are not legal, she'll notice you look old or young and be apprehensive. (unless you are 18 or 36 looking 27.)
 

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I really like this.
Im 17 so i will say im 27
and she goes "haha no really how old?"
i say "ok im 37, i just say im 27 so i dont scare young women away"
 

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Well, obviously if you are or look like you're below the age of consent, it's relevant.

The original post read like that was obviously not an issue in his case.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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